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writes:Just a short Poll question:When was your first high school relationship, how long did it last?Just want to know because i'm 16, and i've always been single, haven't experienced ANYTHING with a guy, no kissing, nothing!The furthest i've gone is a hug!One guy has liked me for 2months, nothing was official between us, his feelings went, I beat myself up for it thinking why he went so suddenly, i'm over him, but if you were a teenage boy going out with a teenage girl who has never been in a relationship before, what would you think?Would you find it good/bad/awkward?Would you take advantage?I'm just wondering for future references.Thank you.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (2 November 2008):
 first proper relationship at 15, lasted six and a half weeks cause the guy wasn't that nice. 16 now and with my current boyfriend almost six months :)
and in reply to your other question- prob good cause then your on an even balance, there would be no pressure into doing stuff because the other has if you get what i mean :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): Well my reply is this: I was 16, and I'd always been single, hadn't experienced ANYTHING with a girl, no kissing, nothing!
Then it all changed. Became more than friends with a girl who I'd known at school for ages, but was always just friends with. Almost 3 years down the track we're still going strong :)
Don't feel like you have a timer, don't feel like you have to do stuff with a guy just because the other girls are and you think it's 'cool' or some crap. Just be happy being friends with guys, make more guy friends, and before you know it you'll find yourseles wanting to know each other a lot better than you always have as friends. I think that's probably the best thing about school- you see these guys/girls every day, you get to know what they're like, and you get to have a pretty decent friendship before anything else has a chance to happen. Take advantage of that- just start talking to guys and don't feel like you're doing it for any other reason. Us guys are suckers for a nice girl who is always up for a chat but has the self-respect to play (slightly) hard to get
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (2 November 2008):
 i would think great because ive never had a relationship either. and we could just be ourselves be natural and can share those first experiences together being sooo special. i guess it must come natural e.g. kissing or what ever because its just a primative thing. take care chris
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): hello,
i wouldnt worry if youre 16 and havent had a boyfriend, I didnt meet my first bf until i was almost 17. I lost my virginity to him at the age of 17. I didnt feel like sex was something i had to rush into
I first kissed a guy at 13 (and i thought it was the most disgusting thing haha), so i wouldnt rush into that either!
I know it might sound patronisng, but u will meet someone eventually. And at least when u do u will be mature enough to handle it, rather than being too young. Dont stress over it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): Hey..do not feel bad. I used to feel the same way as you, im 19 in college and have never kissed a guy before and when tell people I have never had a bf before and that im a virgin, they are shocked. But it will happen at your own pace. Good guys these days are so hard to find and I couldve had many bfs by now but none I felt were right for me and I wont settle. Most high school relationships are a joke..some aren't but some girls I know go out with guys because they need attention and arent comfortable with themselves. So take your time and do not worry about it. You will be better off in the long run. As for telling a guy, I don't think it would matter that much to them. This one guy I almost went out with was shocked I never kissed anyone but it didnt bother him at all and he was willing to wait until I was ready to kiss or go farther but I realized I didnt want him so it never happened. But just make sure to be happy being single first and don't worry about getting a boyfriend, it will come to you. And when you think you found a great guy make sure you set boundaries and if he does try to pressure you to do anything then hes not the one for you.
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