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writes:Hey I want your advice on how will I know I'm ready for sex. I want to have sex, but I think it will be really embarrassing and awkward, is it normal to think this?I'm 20 and a virgin with a boyfriend.Any tips or pointers for a virgin?Thanks.
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Oh, and make sure you're really wet!!! This is crucial! Maybe ask him to give you oral sex first (maybe he'll do this anyway, but if he doesn't, just ask him). That way you'll be nice and wet, and probably relaxed enough to make the intercourse more comfortable.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (25 August 2012):
Let him be on top and ask him to go slow at first. As you ease into it, you should start to feel more relaxed and be able to get into it more. Be warned: the first time usually isn't so great. It wasn't for me! Not horrible or anything, sex just didn't get good for a little while. Good luck and have fun!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 I think your normal to be a bit nervous. Everyone can be nervous the first time they try something.
Theres probably loads of pointers in our archives, just search them. There's even a tag for "virgin" I believe, which will help you in your search. Other than that, my best and only solid tip to you is to make sure you are WELL lubricated. It needs to be slippery like water on ice down there. Which wont be a problem if you're turned on, but some women don't get wet when they are nervous, and some don't produce enough lubricant by nature. So take your time, rub up against each other (he will produce lubricant as well, which can be rubbed up on you), or have a bottle of lube ready.
I also recommend you go on the birth control pill, as condoms tend to dry you out, making the friction unbearable. I'm no virgin, but if he's wearing a condom I dry out real fast and it'll begin to hurt after just a few minutes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): i lost my virginity when i was 20, i found it easier because we did lots of sexual stuff before other than actual intercourse, i was nervous but everyone is on their first time.
just create an atmosphere that your at ease with such as where and like the above said slowly but after a few minutes youll get used to it
just make sure 100% ready!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Probably to ease into this. Actual intercourse is likely quite a leap, although I'll admit that in my youth, I supposedly introduced sexual intercourse to several young women. My approach was always to be very gentle, if that helps. I think it depends on the guy and his experience. But above all, an easy approach is my best advice, especially if your hymen is still intact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): There are parts of it that can feel awkward. I think you need to be comfortable with the guy and feel good in your own skin before you can have sex.
For the first time, you need to realx and not to worry if it doesn't really feel as good. It gets better with time. Also, don't take it too seriously, if something awkward happens, just laugh it off, don't be embarassed.
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reader, shaarsutton_ +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Hello sweet,
It is perfectly normal to think like that and to be a little scared incase you muck up? You won't.
I take it your boyfriend knows you're a virgin? If so, he should take into account it's your first time and you will be nervous. Every one is nervous on there first time. Just take it slowly, things will soon lead. Just 100% make sure you are ready - you don't want to regret doing it if you actually don't want to.
Good luck! :)
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reader, doublejack +, writes (24 August 2012):
The most important tip - make sure to use protection. He should be wearing a condom that was recently purchased and never stored in a wallet. It should be opened and put on as part of foreplay, in a careful manner so not as to damage it or injure him.As far as sex tips and what you should know, all I can say is that being nervous is perfectly normal. If you feel you are ready and want to be intimate with your boyfriend, then go ahead. You are certainly old enough. Everyone is nervous the first time, and people also get nervous when they get intimate with a new partner. So even if your boyfriend has some experience, he could be nervous too.Finally, don't rush anything. If you have a good 10-15 minutes of foreplay, that will help make intercourse more enjoyable for you. If at any point you are getting hurt, communicate that to your boyfriend. Some discomfort is normal the first time, but it shouldn't last long or be very intense.
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