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writes:Hi i'm 13, well there is a porblem but just need to get some advise. I used to like this boy who is 13 and he lately has been acting differently towards me by doing these things:1) Touched me on the shoulder a few times2) follows me in school3) keeps calling me and saying he got to say something4) talks to me constantly5) Compliments me on how i look6) Complients on my work7) tells me i'm pretty 8) came really close once and i was shocked but didn't want to go back in a sudden in case he thinks i'm not intrested so i just go to someone can you pass that paint they go can't reach it, then i go oh don't matter i'll get it myself thanks anyways.9) walks home me sometimes 10) once saw him in town, my mum went off and he came shopping with me11) keeps asking if i can be his partner for pair work12) holds my hand like 3 timesmy question is why does he do this, does he fancy me or something or am i just dreaming it. And if he does what do i say to him, cause i'm not into him anymore, i was but he didn't want to know me then and now all of sudden this. How can i tell him in a nice way and not hurt his feelings as much? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): yeah it sounds as though he likes you to me !! But if you don't like him too, you need to tell him this. However, I wouldn't just say to him something like 'i don't like you in that way' cos you never know, you may have read him wrong or something. That kind of situation isn't great! So i would suggest first finding out how he feels about you, and if it turns out that he does like you, then say, 'i think you're really sweet, but i don't feel the same, but we cans till be friends :-) '
Hope I can help a little!
xx Hope xx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Yup! He's got it bad!
You may not need to tell him at all, because if you do nothing then it's quite likely that he will change his mind completely and suddenly decide he likes someone else better. Or some other boy may suddenly decide that you are the best girl in the whole world, and this boy will get the message very quickly.
If he tries to kiss you (or declares his everlasting love for you or something like that) then you may have to tell him that he's very nice but you really don't want to do anything like that with him. That will upset him, undoubtedly, but it really might not be necessary. Only tell him if you really have to - because right now he's a friend and good friends are rare. You can reject his various offers without upsetting him("quiet! I'm busy" "can't talk to you now I have a lot to do" "I want to do pair work with....." "don't touch my shoulder like that - you made me jump!") and sooner or later he will become a little less enthusiastic.
It's worth keeping his friendship if you possibly can. And, you never know, later on you might suddenly decide you want more than friendship, but if you are careful what you do and say now then you keep your options open for whatever you decide later.
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