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writes:I've been batterd and beaten I've been in fights I've been hurt physically and emotionally. my first love was killed and the murderer got off because I broke his nose ribs and hurt his neck. I got severe probation, house arrest and was court ordered therapy. from then on, all I got out of relationships was broken hearts and let downs. my last girlfriend cheated on me then my NOW ex broke it off after she told me she loved me and I thought I loved her. now i got a busted knee from a work related injury and after I returned to work I was fired because I collected workmans comp. im so depressed I still think about my ex my car was repo'ed this morning. I got lucky because the landlord is a really good friend and is helping me out. I can barely walk and can't afford any other kind of doctor visit than what work comp is paying for right now. all my life I have tried to be the best person I could I always go out of my way to please people and basically care too much for my own good. yet all this negative stuff haunts me. Am I gonna have to live with this curse? Im already scared so much that I am numb to any kind of love happiness or such. why is this happening to me? I can't afford therapy. please someone tell me how I stop all this negativaty?
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (4 October 2009):
Dude, you may not like this answer, but I know it will help.
If you do positive spiritual things, it's like a shield that protects you from negative internal and external influences. If you commit to starting a spiritual path, your life will seem like its guided by a caring hand.
Try the following things:
1. Stop all illegal drugs and alcohol. These deplete your spirit.
2. Read "The Four Agreements" This will teach you how your emotions are used against you, and how to stop judging yourself. Judging yourself and others depletes spiritual energy. It's not your job, the position is filled.
3. Start meditation daily. At least four times a day to start. If your not sure how, go to FHU.com and download, "Be Still and Know" Roy's crazy sometimes but he knows some very valuable lessons. Answers come if your patient and be still.
4. Commit yourself to whatsoever is positive in this universe. I just said "God, I don't know if your there, but if you are I'm with you" That was enough.
5. Good nutrition, daily exercise, one unselfish act a day.
If these suggestions arouse anger in you, you really need to ask where the anger comes from. Just try it, what have you got to lose?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
I'm sorry for your loss, but don't give up yet. I think the problem is that you never got over your first loss. you didn't give yoourself time to talk and beging to heal, and I'm guessing you're blaming yourself. When we're feeling low, we look for the first signs of comfort, so it's likely that you went out with girls that weren't reallly suitable for you. You need to let your body heal first. Sounds like you have a great landlady. Take your time letting your body heal. Then you need to see a cousellor. You've got a lot of feelings and emotions that you need to face and understand, and the only real way to do that is in therapy. You need to give yourself time, so you can start to heal. And to do that you need to focus on yourself. Don't bother trying to get other girls at the moment, just focus on yourself. All the best.
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reader, intake +, writes (4 October 2009):
Look you have gone into a trauma of this whole beating up and accident business. Now you are depressed because god is making you feel all the bad and negative stuff you have done in the past to people. You can't just hit someone or hurt someone then expect to get away from it. Now your emotions are eating at you, because of what you've done. Take a tip from me! Never ever get involved in these animal like scenarios again. And never get yourself in things that will bring you bad luck or hatred. Because we all know that when we actually hurt someone or anything in the world we will be hurt treble the times more. Be spirtual and be calm. Go buy a calm book and read all what it has to say in there. Keep (Reading it!)and (Reading it!) and (Reading it!) Until its sinks in your head and then adopt that into second nature. Sometimes god could have made you done all these bad things just for your own good. You know becuase maybe he wants you to get hutr and realise the pain not only have you caused yourself but others around your circle. good luck!!!
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