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*alal
writes: I am having a relationship with a married man and have been seeing over 11 years now. i have made up my mind to leave him but he is the source of my family and i up keep. what should i do cause i dont have the strenght to leave, i am feeling leaving him right now is wrong and my parent feel that way too. please help me
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reader, Talal +, writes (8 July 2009):
Talal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI HAVE READ ALL THE REPLIES, THANKS TO THOSE WHO KNOWS WHAT IT FEEL LIKE TO GO THROUG WHAT I AM GOIN THROUG. I AM PROMISING THAT I AM GOIN TO WALK AWAY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): I think i have heard everything now. How in the world could you get yourself mixed up with a married man for 11 years? He is taking care of your family? No, he is simply paying you to be a sex partner...His real emotions is with his wife! Your only being used for money, and the sooner you realize this the better off you will be. Think real hard about what you are being paid for,,, it will make it alot easier to dump the cheater. Good luck Girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): I really feel for you and have been there also! It's really hard to break away emotionally as well as financially but in the end you'll be beter off. I had over 8 years invested and one day I decided no more being alone on weekends, holidays, etc. I just packed his clothes......
Life is sooo much better now and I feel like a new person, so do yourself a favor and kick his butt to the curb girl!
After all, if he loves you so much why did he not (long ago) divorce her and make his life with you??? It's because he having his cake and eating it too at your expense! You do have the strength to stand up for yourself and you'd better do it now cause life is to short, don't be left 10 more years down the road in the same sinking boat.
I wish I could tell you it'll be easy cause it's not but I can tell you it's so worth it to move on, you'll be mad that it took this long to make the move when it's done.
Good luck and stay strong, your a good person that deserves only the best. (He is NOT the best) Take care:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): you say he is the source of you and your families upkeep? meaning he is providing financially for you therefore you cannot let go of your married man? how about some pride? you are using this man for financial reasons therefore you stay as his mistress. there is no love just financial committment. pity the married fool doesn't know why you keep him around. will really boost his ego to know its because he provides the dough and not because he you love him.
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reader, Jes  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 When you talk about your family. is it your own children and he was the father? In that case, it's his obligation to support you and your family no matter what. If what yyou are talking about is the family you have with your parents and siblings, that would be another case. it is never right to have a relationship just for greener pasture of your family especially when the one you are having the relationship with is a married one. Can't you see that you are ruining other people's family for the sake of your own family's welfare. that's quite wrong. So as early as possible and before everything becomes worse, stop it and just provide what you have to provide for your family in other ways. The longer you stay and get in touch with him, the harder it will be for you to get out of the situation and the higher the stakes and consequences after. Just think about it. Good Luck...
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