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writes:Hi,I need some advice. My boyfriend of two years has had a real trust problem since his previous girlfriend cheated on him, and it took him a LONG time to warm up to me, and we've finally made a breakthrough and he's relaxed with me when an old aquaintance sends me a text message (one of those chain-mail things) about kissing someone or meeting someone by 12 am or you're cursed forever, something really dumb like that.The problem is now, my boyfriend has somewhat limited english skills, being from another country, and misinterpreted the message thinking that someone was planning to meet me at 12 AM and kiss me (or more)...and he's convinced that I was planning to sneak away and cheat on him. It's really making me sad because all of this trust that I'm trying to build up, I'm afraid it will all come crashing down over a stupid text message that I had nothing to do with. What makes me feel worse is that he won't even yell about it, he just withdraws from me and looks at me with sad eyes and says how could you? How could I what? I didn't do anything, and that's the hardest part. I tried to make it better by telling him he can check on me whenever he likes, if I say I'm going to be somewhere, then go ahead and check on me, and see that I don't lie to you, but he says it's not his way to "check" on his girlfriend, he doesn't do that. So does anyone know how I can repair this situation? It was just a stupid text message, but my still fragile relationship could fall apart over it :(
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reader, Steve169  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Well as a guy who is kinda suspicious everytime a guy does something like put kisses at the end of a txt to my gf, i can tell u ur bf is not the only guy in the world with this type of problem. You need to think how much this quality affects and bothers you, is this the only time he's been paranoid due to insecurity? But mainly you need to try and make him feel absolutly secure with you; perhaps go to him more for things like affection or help. Don't make him feel as if he's being used, but just make him feel as if you need him. Play on his strengths, what can he giv you that no1 else could? Guy's love to feel needed!Find times to show affection; like cuddling close to him on a settee. In a way it's almost a game of convincing him that he's an essential part of your life and you cant go without him.
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