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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and we're supposed to get married later this year. The problem is I found out that he's been looking at gay porn on the internet. He does watch some straight porn but I seen a lot of gay. I asked him and he swears he's not gay that it's the whole porn thing that he's always watched a lot of crazy things. He says he's always had a problem watching too much porn but he swears he loves me and has no desire to be with a man, and that he will not watch it any more but I still worry that he's gay and just won't tell me the truth. We do have sex often and he's the one who usally starts it and seems to like it but it still worries me because he has a problem with erections. The doctor says he has ED from different meds he's taken and viagra does work but now I worry that it's because he's gay.
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the question dcgurl.... thanks!! i'm not sure whats next. im still retty confused over it all and his lies for the first 2 weeks. just want to make sure i believe what is real and not jump ahead of myself with negitive thoughts or just easily forget it and believe what i want to believe. (that all is fine)..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): I think it's cool he revealed his library to you - that's awesome. And I bet you were cool to him when he did. You know, when two people agree on anything, and I mean anything, it doesn't matter what it is, it's just another asset to the relationship.
I like your story - your boy just said, well, yeah, I'm caught, I'll kinda lie, no, that wasn't right, I'll just tell her everything...
And that is too cool. So what's next?
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSyferfire...Thanks again! wh talked about it more again when he came home from work. he showed me on the computer where he does actually watch a lot of straight porn as well. it seems he has some sort of fetish with watching people cum. i dont understand it but he showed me where he often searches for pictures or films of that. some are very gross scenes to me. he says this is what he was so embarrased for me to know. im still not sure what to believe because he started off by lying but all of them or at least most seem to be what hes decribing to me. he said he has never had any thoughts of being with a man. its all different types of cum scenes that he likes. have you ever heard of a man having a fetish like that?
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks armymedic and dcgurl. i will really think about what you said!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Well then I agree with you..You have a right to know. He might be too embarrassed or something to be honest with you about it.
I don't know, this is sorta outside my area of expertise... lol
I guess don't use words like "gay" and "homo" when you try to discuss it with him, he's been proven to flat deny that...use words like "bi"... and "curious"... ect ect.. try to let him keep some of his hetero as you discuss it, basically.
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsyferfire. thanks for responding, but he didnt stumbled on it cause hes been watching it for years i guess and a few times a week. also just wanted to clarify that the gay porn hes watching is men on men with no women. this is the main porn he watches even though he does watch a little of the straight. thanks again!
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso just wanted to clarify that the gay porn hes watching is men on men with no women. this is the main porn he watches even though he does watch a little of the straight. thanks again!
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reader, christyt +, writes (21 April 2009):
christyt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, thank you very responding.it's not so much that i wouldnt work things out if hes bi. its that i think i should know the truth. hes watching it 2-3 times a week at least and paying to see it. the main problem is him hiding it from me and lying to me. how can we work through it if hes not honest with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): I strongly believe men are naturally made for homosexuality. Their physiology and anatomy is perfectly engineered for it. Given that plus male urges, it makes sense to me men consider homosexuality sometime in their lives.
The movie Tropic Thunder was not that far off when he said, "We're all gay sometime".
My b/f loves the idea of anal sex and I know he thinks of it a lot with other men. He came home after two days from the beach with all his boyz and was non-stop interested in anal play. I told him no prob if it were reciprocal. and he said no way. So I know he has gay thoughts maybe even tendencies. He won't act on them though.
Anyway, once more I'm with ArmyMedic. That's because he hasn't been wrong so far, I think.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 For Viagra to work you have to be sexually stimulated, therefore if Viagra is working when he is having sex with you, he finds you sexually stimulating.
Also just because he watches gay porn doesn't make him gay, he also watches straight porn so he could be BI. But seriously he loves you and is marrying you so why do you need to pin labels on his sexuality!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): If he has had sex with you at ALL, let alone often with HIM initiating it, then he certainly isn't gay. He may be bi, however. Relax, in all probability he just stumbled on a gay site and clicked back real quick. Then your snooping got it put out of context.
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