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writes:Im not the type of girl to fall in love...im not the type of girl who falls in love like most of my mates. I tend to stear clear of deep relationships because i know they end up with tears and broken hearts.ive been with my boyfriend now for a little over 3 months. Dont get me wrong hes a great guy, everyone in my family thinks hes great and i really couldnt live without him.so how comes i keep making silly little things in to dramas just to push him away?? everytime things get really good, i get scared and push him away.Please help me, I don't want to lose someone so important just because I'm scared!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): Im around the same age as you and i used to be the same exact way not that long ago, i even got depression because of it!!!i would get so caught up in other peoples relationship misfortunes that it started to affect my own relationships, i would dwell on negative thoughts like "what if we break up" or "or what if i find someone else" or "waht if i dont love him enough"...ect...I even started to push my own bf away!!! I was so afraid that i would be hurt like so many of my friends and that our relationship would end just like thiers did, with crying and pain.
But ya know what? i grew out of it, i heard this interesting saying once "what you fear, you create" it was so true. I then realized that my friends misfortunes are not my own, and i got over my fears.
I wish you the absolute best and i know you can over come these irrational thoughts, i did and i feel so much better becuase of it.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Explain to him how you're feeling. Tell him you don't mean to push him away, you're just scared in case you lose him. If he truly has feelings for you then he'll understand and will reassure you. It's only natural when things are going so well between you that you think it can't last but don't think that way, think POSITIVE!!! MAKE it work!!!
Trust, honesty, communication and loyalty are the cornerstones of a good relationship. If you both work on these then your relationship will be a success and will flourish.
Eve
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