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*orever_His
writes:I saw my ex-boyfriend today. It's been 2 months that I've been without him. He's dating someone else, but just last night, she kicked him out of her house. I just talked to him on Friday because I went to his family's house for Thanksgiving. Let me remind you that his entire family thinks the world of me because I love him so much and have given him so much. When I talked to him on Friday, he said he "guesses" what he was trying to tell me is that he's happy where he was at. If he's guessing that, then he must not be truly happy. Any time that he and talk and this girl is not around, he is very sweet and calls me baby. He keeps telling me that we will get back together, but any time that I talk to him while he's around her, he is a complete jerk. He feels like I have turned his family against him, but I haven't. They just love me. This new chick is no good, she does drugs and she gets behind on her bills. She's only 26 yrs old but she looks like she's 40. He's 25, and I'm 20. He keeps blaming everyone else for us breaking up. He has given different reasons as to why we broke up. We had just been together for a little over a year when he left. He does not work, but I would give him the benefit of the doubt that one day he would step up and get a real job to provide for us. He is not perfect by no means whatsoever but I love him more than anything. It's hard for me to not care about him, because he is very special to me for many reasons. It has been 2 months and all I would ever do is cry because I missed him so much. Now all I do is just sit back and hope that one day I can have him back. I'm doing okay without him, but really worried for him because he has to stay different places now that she kicked him out. But do you think that if they're already having problems like that after 2 months that they will stay together much longer? let me remind you that so many people who know her very well, said she is not the type of woman to stay with anyone long. Although he does not treat me the way that he should, I still love him. He has always went back to his ex's before me, but any time that I see him in public, he acts like he doesn't even know me. But I treated him good and gave him alot, so I just wonder if he will ever come back to me. My parents had some personal problems with him, mainly that he would not work and I would just give him money. That's what worries me that he will never want me again. I would like to move on and be in a relationship with someone, but I still love him so that would not be fair to another guy. I just don't know if he's just confused by telling me that he "guesses" he's happy with her, or what he's trying to do. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.
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Forever_His is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. Part of me doesn't want to be with him again, because I'm worried that he would just leave me again. But I love him more than anything so that's what is making me want to be with him again. As far as she goes, it's been at least 6 to 7 people who have said she does not stay with anyone long. His parents have not met her, but do not like her because they know she does drugs. I don't understand why he would get involved with someone like that. He's better than that. He will never pay back all of the money I gave him, and I have accepted that. I can pretty much kiss all of that goodbye. And it's not that he would take it from me, I would just give it to him because I always put him first because I love him and would just make sure his needs are taken care of. He has alot of anger problems, and I accept him for who he really is and even his own family says that this new "gf" will not put up with him long. I've heard a thousand times that I will be better off without him, but he really does mean the world to me. He makes me so completely happy, even on the days that we would argue, which happened like everyday. He says that is one of the reasons why we split, but I did not start the arguments all the time. One thing that I can't stand that he does is call me a liar. He says that I have lied to him about everything, which is not true. I just really want to be with him, but I know he has to become a man and get a job. He has a child from a previous relationship that he doesn't get to see at all, but still needs to pay child support. I just worry for him, I did when we were together. I'm NOT jealous the least bit of this new woman. She's not very pretty and does drugs. And any time we have talked since we broke up, although he is dating someone else, he would always tell me that he loves me. I just don't understand why he is being a jerk to me now, unless she's nowhere around. But 2 days before I talked to him the last time, he was calling me baby and hugging me. I know he's playing games, but I don't know what to do other than try to move on. I am very hurt by this because I put so much into this relationship and showed him so much love and then he just walked away. I miss him terribly.
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