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writes:Hi everyone, thanks for reading at least. I'm 23 and have never had any kind of close relationship with anyone. It never works when I feel attracted to someone, maybe because I show myself really enthusiastic about what may be going on and become very participative and care-taking. Friends tell me I'm a very good friend to have, that I always remember things and so, but... I feel so alone and sad, and I keep day-dreaming about how would I love someone. I feel realized in many aspects of my life, such as work and friends but I indeed need to "love" someone, I want to know how does it feels like! Not to talk about sex, that's apart, I'm talking about romantic love. I don't know even how to start, yes, meeting people (that's not a matter I'm very social), but, after that... so OK, I know I'm young and it will arrive, but it's the feeling of spending some of the young-years alone, and of course my friends are all in deep relationships. I want that too, I want to meet that special one... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): hey,
i found my love at 26.
he is a strong guy with a beautiful,loving heart.he has lovely olive toned skin with curly hair.he has the cutest smile i have ever seen.i love his brit accent.he makes me feel like his woman.he told me that he feels for me in all ways.he wants me to have his babies..lol
when i told him that i didn't want sex early in our relation,he understood.he is ready to wait for it till we get married.
treats me like a delicate flower.
my advice is wait till you find your soulmate.your special someone is someone who makes your life special.its hard to say where you'll find him but keep your eyes open.
love:)
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (29 September 2009):
 You should try and meet people first that happen to be interested in the same things you're interested in.
But more importantly, if you want to attract someone as a boyfriend rather than as a friend, you're going to have to seek to develop a more intimate relationship.
Go slow. Try and learn a lot about someone that you would really like in your life. As you continue to communicate, allow yourself to become more attractive to a prospective mate.
Also, see if you're attracted to him. Learn about each other's character. Delve deeper into the things that matter to each of you personally.
The closer you get on an intellectual and emotional level, the easier it is to find yourselves more intimate.
As you develop those connections, try being more trusting of each other; and then you can become more open about your feelings about each other and things that matter in your lives. Sharing feelings, sharing emotions is what develops love.
When the two of you find you're able to say anything to each other without fear of hurting or embarrassing each other, and can accept each other freely, then you've established intimacy.
Physical affection (aside from just sex) is important too. Developing physical intimacy, being comfortable sitting next to each other, holding hands, cuddling and enjoying each other's company is very important. The more time you two spend together, the better it gets.
After that you can develop sexual relations easier and be trusting of each other at the same time.
Romantic love if you want to call it that is intimacy on every possible level, and you just have to take the time to develop a deeper relationship than just friendship.
Though friendship's important and its part of love, its only 1 part of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Hi,
I sympathize with you!!! I am 23 too, and single....very single...have been for a very long time. It doesn't help when people tell me that I am pretty and should have a boyfriend, because then I think, "what's wrong with me then!??".
All I can say is that you can't rush it. I am not the sort of person who believes in some metaphysical force that puts lovers together, i.e. fate. But when love doesn't happen with the person that you want it to happen with, it means that it is not meant to. Think of it this way, you are a bunch of elements, he is a bunch of elements and your interaction with each other is another bunch of elements. When the elements don't match or compliment each other, it is not because of you (or that you need to change)... it just isn't right with that person. They can't give you what you need.
I have been single forever like you. It feels strange at times. I have liked guys and they have liked me, but it never ever works and is sooo frustrating. The truth is, it is not suppose to be frustrating. Love is suppose to make your life better, richer, not more anxious and depressing. If a person is causing you to feel this way (elements are not right) you need to leave the idea of them in the dust.
Every person is different. Your friends might be in relationships now but they might not always be. You might meet a wonderful guy next week or next year. (You can't plan it.)
Just be secure in who you are. You are great and someday, some guy is going to come along that will actually be strong enough to be with you and he will compliment you in each way that you are unique. Why settle for less than that??
Good luck!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Its not easy meeting the right "one" but you can open up opportunites for yourself by getting out there and meeting a partner.
Try this dating site
http://smoothfind.com
This one is good for meeting singles, get talking to fellow minded individuals and prehaps go for a few dates and see how it goes from there.
Dont compare yourself to your friends and dont worry, You wont be single forever -all good things take time to find and nurture.
Good luck!
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