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writes:Hi, I've been broken up with my bf of 2.5 years for over a month now. Were both 21. He initiated the breakup. We then saw each other a week after the break up we had a wonderful day and he said he wanted to make it work, he missed me and loved me (the reason we broke up is petty fights, he's nervous about pressures of starting med next year) but i could tell that he was still confused. I said lets just leave it for a while until you come back from going away (he went to europe for a month). It was a tad weird before he went away which made me question what he said. Neways since he's been away I've had three picture messages- one of him with audrey hepburn at madame tussauds (because our first date was breakfast at tiffany's at the moonlight cinema) saying 'catching up with an old friend, was wondering if you'd like to join us.' He's said 'i miss you' in a message, and sent 4 facebook emails all talking about his trip, asking what i've been up to and saying i miss you at the end. I've been playing it cool when replying and have been having loads of fun back home, even dating a little. Do you think this is all game playing or he actually wants to reconcile? This really is not like any other breakups I've heard of.
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reader, lizzyb +, writes (28 December 2008):
lizzyb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i agree i really shouldn't be dating. it hasn't been very rewarding, it's mainly just shown me how much i miss him. i really only did it out of self defence so if he didn't come back i could at least say to myself that i didn't just wait around like an idiot. I know the breakfast at tiffany's thing was really sweet, it made me smile. i really miss him and want to give him a second chance. I just hope that's what he wants from all this.
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reader, headphonejunkie  +, writes (27 December 2008):
Let's face it. Most of the time when girls fight with their boyfriends, it's because we want them to sweep us in their arms, apologize for whatever it is, and ravish us with an earth shattering kiss like in the old movies.However, to a guy, fighting and arguing means things are going down hill fast. It really is pretty common for most guys to take a break, get some air, and let everyone cool down. It's not really a bad strategy, and it does seem like this guy is trying to show you he *does* care about you. As far as men go with their romanticism, the Breakfast at Tiffany's reference was incredibly sweet and thoughtful. You mentioned you were already dating a little, and in all honesty with the length of the relationship and how short of a time you've been broken up, I think that's a little unfair to him. To answer your intial question, he does seem like he is trying to reconcile, and if *you* still care about him, I would say you should give him another chance.
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