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writes:dear cupid,Its an exciting time of my life, I was introduced to a man about 2 1/2 weeks ago and I'm totally diggin him. Let me share with you though, I consider myself new to the dating scene since the last man I dated was my ex who I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 years that ended horribly. And after the break up I began to focus on myself and trying to become a better me each day. For about 10 months I content with myself, I wasnt dating or did I ever find a spark with another individual....up until this man i met 2 1/2 weeks ago....lets call him Tom. So whats the issue you may ask....first off Im so rusty and a bit awkward trying to flirt and show my side of interest. And for him...he seems to be shy. Im a bit confused if he even has an interest in me but I totally feel like he does..Hes been hanging out with me and we do live an hour apart....we just havent hung out obe on one its usually with a group of friends. so what im adking is for a few advices for the next time i see him...what are a few signs i can say or do to be more upfront that im totally feeling him??help me with this silly slump. im ready for finding love please help ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2013):
Okey get him into convo and smile just chat about something funny you saw on tv even cute maybe .. While chatting run your hand through your hair , try this out at home in front of the mirror okey you might giggle a few times, .. Bite your lip a little and lower your lashes like your thinking about something .. But peek under to see if he's watching if he leans in and asks what your thinking etc .. He defo interested .. Even shy guys will ask.. And when he does laugh and shake your head and say I can't lol keep him guessing is the art of flirting ..
I'm nearing 40 and been with my hubby for 24 years , he a very handsome man . But he says I'm infuriating haha as I always keep him guessing oo the joy of being a grand flirt lol lol .
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 June 2013):
I don't think you need to be upfront with what you're feeling because this can freak people (guys and girls) out at first. It's taken me a lot of practice and trial and error (lots of errors)to figure out what works for me if I'm interested in a guy.
I know it's so cliché, but be yourself is always number 1. It's hard especially when things are awkward and you're unsure of what the other person is thinking/feeling. I also think that guys need a little "push." Which means if you like him, talk to him more and flirt with him. Make him feel comfortable that way he doesn't have this huge fear of rejection he could very well be feeling. It's scary to ask someone out, especially with the possibility that the person they're asking out might say no.
It's kind of a happy medium you have to try to find. It's probably best to not lay all your "feelings" out when you don't know them all that well, but you also don't want to be so aloof that he thinks you're not interested at all.
I'm not sure if you chose the title for your question, but "playing hard to get" hasn't worked for me at all. Usually they end up thinking you don't really like them or that you're too much work. But don't be easy either and lay everything out for them and give them anything they want.
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