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anonymous
writes:This is a question for guys to answer please. Imagine if you met and started a relationship with an early forties female who looked between five and ten years younger, very good looking and who had had one child when she was previously married at a very young age (now grown up and living away from home). The woman in question is a very natural looking and basically a really nice person with sound values who has worked really hard, been a great mum and kept herself in shape. She has a really interesting career ahead of her and a wicked sense of humour. Would you be shocked and would you judge her badly if she told you further down the line in the developing relationship that she had (very small) breast implants to counteract the effect of breastfeeding? At what stage in the relationship would you expect her to tell you? And if it was clear that she really had only had the implants to counteract the effects of breastfeeding - ie. not to enlarge her breasts, just to perk them up a bit - would you feel differently towards her than a woman who had natural breasts or only had breast implants in order to make them larger? My friends and I are wondering - this is how they describe me but I am very confused because I have the chance to embark on a relationship with someone that I am really falling far, but I sense he is the kind of guy who would be repulsed by plastic surgery and I can't pluck up the courage to go for it through fear of being judged on this issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): To JustHelpinAgain - thanks so much for your much more human comments. I actually feel the same way that you do about breast implants - I'm not particularly in favour of them...but when I had them done they were the smallest size available and it was only to get my boobs back to the size that they were pre childbirth/breastfeeding because they shrank so much that it was making me feel very childlike and unwomanly and also causing me to lose a lot of weight to try to get everything in proportion, when I was already very slim. I had spent 20 odd years totally hiding that part of my body and felt very shy about them in bed, even with my long term partner. I was in a loving relationship for 18 years, totally expecting to stay with that person forever. We separated - nothing to do with the implants, which he wasn't bothered about either way - and I've been left unexpectedly wondering how to broach the subject with a new partner. I am really reassured by your comments because they seem to come from a very realistic place - I find the whole "my girlfirend/wife" is 100% natural sometimes oddly as if it is more about the ego of the male involved - not always, but sometimes. Gosh, I feel so much better! Thank you!!!
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 OK, my bias is that I hate implants. I feel pretty strongly that natural is better. My wife breastfed three babies, she's 46, and I love what she has. Are they as perky as they were when she was 18? Probably not. On the other hand, I suspect that her genes have given her an advantage, and that she's better off than other gals of her age.
I don't know what you're dealing with. If it's the sort of thing you see in National Geographic in Africa, hollow bags hanging to the waist, OK then implants might be useful. Otherwise? Robert Heinlein said something like breasts that had been fed upon were improved: "Nursing does not diminish the beauty of a woman's breasts; it enhances their charm by making them look lived in and happy." I completely agree.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (13 September 2011):
Hey, you're fine. I fall into the group of males who aren't particularly turned on by silicon superwoman breasts, or the kind of women that think they need them, but, with a wife who has reared a number of children I totally understand and would agree why you did it. I had checked out the cost and considered offering my wife to do the same if she had wanted. As for if and when you tell someone? You don't need to make a big deal about it, probably the first time he gets to see them you casually drop in a "I had them enhanced a bit" sort of comment. U
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