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writes:So im 18 and im getting ready to start college i just have a few last minute things to work out. Here's the problem, i get nervous and shy around new people and when i go to college that's all that's going to be around is new people im scared shitless!I keep thinking about things like at lunch im either gona be sitting by myself or no where because all the tables are full and no one knows me so they dont want me to sit by them. You think i woulda got used to new people as many times as i moved but i also believe it was easier because i was in grade school and junior high. People are assigned to you to show you around and you pretty much become friends because of that, plus iv only went to small schools even my highschool was really small. I just dont think i can handle it. When im at work and around people i dont know, its fine but i work with all grown-ups and i seem to get along with them better for some reason. I dont know the closer it gets the more anxious i am and i think anxiety is setting in, because i will know absolutely no one. I am however moving in with my mom (who lives in another state)so i can maybe gain some self-esteem like she has, but i have also lived with my dad all my life so in a way i hate to move. Help please!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (31 July 2010):
 Starting college can be a scary thing but the good thing about it is there are a lot of different ways to get involved with your school in the first days, during Orientation the school slowly integrates you into college and your campus culture. the first couple of weeks at my school our hall would go eat together, like all 15+of us because we didn't know anybody else, and were probably nervous about branching out so that was good. the people from that hall turned out to be some of my best friends throughout and beyond college, to some extent. there are a lot of optional social activities, like ice cream socials, bowling or i think we had some kind of carnival? anyway it was a lot of fun just doing what the school had planned out for us. there's down time, too, so you can sort of..decompress and be a little antisocial when you're overwhelmed. don't worry, everyone's on their best behavior in the first days of college cause they want to put their best feet forward so they have someone to talk to and sit at lunch with too, you'll make friends in no time!
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