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writes:I'm a single 20 year old man, about to head to university in september and I'm having trouble.I have trouble maintaing relationships with people...I mean I have friends, I'm well liked and very sociable, but I can be very negative. People think I see the world through a black and white filter, but I'm actually very positive, I just think that people need to try harder, that things could be much better if people didn't just do what they could to scrape by...and I guess that comes across a bit harsh sometimes.Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): They're just taking their frustrations out on you- it's not fair. You need to find people more like yourself. Going to Uni will allow you to get a fresh start and make new friends. Never change yourself or your opinions for anyone. Good luck at Uni!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA lot of this anger comes from a lot of things, but at the moment it's from a school project I had to do, and when it failed, I was blamed. They said that I didn't motivate them enough, but why should I? Coming in drunk or stoned to class, and it's my fault they're failing? They're doing so little and trying to lay it on me. I't just not fair.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 CindyCares raises a good point. Be an example to yourself and others, and respect that others lead their life as they will. You can never change people, your only true power lies in giving inspiration. And, people will not get affected or change themselves unless they want to, so preaching to them how they must try harder will not be heard. You are wasting your energy with this type of talk. Focus on the things you can do, and not what you can not do.
And, as Cindy said, what to them is their best is not always what you would consider to be best. So never judge another person. We need people of all sorts to make the world go around, and to suggest that someone is just "scraping by" is insulting and elitism. I think you need to respect people and their choices more.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 " Be the change you want to see in the world " (Mahatma Gandhi ) YOU try as hard as you want and do not accept to scrape by. Be the best you can be- and let other people be the best THEY can be-which is not necessarily what you would see as your best.
People learn more by a good example than by being judged harshly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): I'm the same, people sometimes say stupid hopefully untealsitic stuff, I don't normally bother to correct them unless it was a realy retarded statement.
I don't think I'm a pesimist, I'm a realist, I don't see the point in pretending thing will happen or stay the same... Most people find it "depressing" but I just think they're being niave. Each to their own I guess!!
Also, people get really offended by opinions alot of the time, I'm not sure why...
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