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writes:ok,so at school im called a slut.i dont even know why.guys usually say to their friends that if they need to "get some",then go to me.but im not like that.i do have a big chest and a big butt,but id give up all that to stop being called a slut.i mean,sure sometimes i joke around about stuff like screwing people,but so do some of my other friends and they arent sluts.i dont even flirt that much.my shirts show some clevage but thats just me.so how can i prove that im not a slut?please,please,please help me.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Hi,
well having recently taught at a high school I think I can say for sure that you are a victim of the usual desperate gossip that substitutes for truth in any school.
First, it doesnt matter what you wear you should be able to hold your head high amongst any free thinking individual with intelligence and the ability to value a person's attributes .
The problem for you is you wont meet anybody like this at school. The boys, full of testosterone, will only be looking at your boobs and bum, nothing else, if you show cleveage it is your right, but dont expect young teenage boys to do anything but stare at them. I'm afraid it's just not realistic. Moreover, playing the game with them by pretending you are sexually active is only going to further hasten the gossip surrounding you.
If I were you , I would cover my assets ( at least until you finish school ) and not engage in any more of this immature stuff with the boys. Reputations stick around and while they can be waved away with time, you will be alarmed at how long these reputations can stay with a person, especially a person with assets that other girls may be jealous of.
Good luck, hold your head up high, and stop playing these games.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (26 November 2007):
Well you cant really 'prove' you are not a slut. People will judge you by how you look, you dress, what you say & do, who you hang around with and so on...so either you can keep on doing what your doing which makes them judge you wrong (as a slut) or you can make some changes so maybe then, their wrong views of you will change.
I mean come on, dressing with a short skirt that showws "some" clevage is obviously going to start causing rumours...If i was you, i would change that.
You could try asking these people who call you a slut why, and ask them for some proof. As you arent a slut, then they wont be able to come up with any proof will they? Challenge them to what they are saying, fight with logic, rather then other ways such as calling names back.
Also you could try ignoring what tey say, sometimes if people dont get ANY reaction at all tey will stop because sometimes all they are looking for is a reaction.
Have you tried talking to a teacher at school? This is bullying happening at school, so really the teachers should be informed about this. They might be able to stop all this.
Oh and I think the joking around about screwing people needs to stop to...I think you would be suprised about how if that never started in the first place, that the name calling may of never too...
Hope this has helped somehow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Ahh, high-school.
I remember it well.
Not much you can do. Just don't pay attention to anything these jealous twats say.
And if a guy thinks you're easy, kick him in the nuts. Its that simple.
Oh and lying about sleeping around is only gonna exacerbate things, so cut down on that shit.
Flynn 24
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Usually if guys my age age call a girl a slut it's because she's hooked up with alot of guys, or she dresses slutty.
Showing some cleavage isn't enough for people call you a slut.
You probably give them the impretion you're easy when you talk about banging people and whatnot, even if you're joking, we're all pretty stunned and have a hard time telling the diff.
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