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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 Glad he told her... and no she's not cool and it's not going to be fun if she comes... clearly she thought they had more...
My now ex husband when he told all his LDR online "girl" friends about us he was SHOCKED at the fact that over 50% of then stopped speaking to him... he had no clue they felt like there was more than friendship...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe brought it up tonight and said he told her. Told me it was difficult because he felt bad for her but that he's not in love with her. He says she's "cool" with things but then I noticed she deleted all the nice comments she had recently posted on his page and on a photo of me and him. So clearly she's not "cool" with it. Ugh.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Do you know for certain he's told her? And even if he's told her you're together, he might be saying you have problems together or something. You have no idea what he's telling her. this is a sticky situation. Don't put yourself through this no good can come of it. He should respect your feelings. How would he feel if it was your ex? Yeah - exactly.x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2012):
you are right you should NOT have to do any of this
big huge RED FLAG that he has NOT told her you are back together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThey were friends before they started sleeping together and she has other friends here. So there's more of a reason than just him for flying here. But I KNOW she still likes him and as of 2 days ago he hadn't told her that we are back together. She's coming in one week. He claims its no big deal to her that they were casual. Do I nag him, lay down an ultimatum or threaten to talk to her myself ? I shouldn't have to do any of this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2012):
There is no need for her to come if you guys are back together and the ticket can still be cashed in for another ticket for somewhere else.
if she bought it it's hers
if he got it for her it's his and he can cash it in and you two can get another ticket and go somewhere together..
he says he WILL tell her? has he NOT told her you are back together???
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (10 February 2012):
Why are you doubting that what you feel is right?!
Of course she shouldn't come! She's an ex for a reason. And it sounds like it's all still very fresh and they were together not long ago. It seems she blatently still likes him. She needs to grow up, move on and find someone else. YOU know that if she came you'd be paranoid about them being together right? Why should you spend that time being miserable while they "hang out" and have fun. It's not right. If he has a problem with how you feel then he probably still likes the ex and you should get out fast. Good luck
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