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writes:My first love and i decided to break up when he went off to college (seeing as i am a senior in highschool). We stayed single throughout this year apart. And we had made a plan to get back together when i go up to the same state school as he is at when i graduate highschool. the only thing is , is that one of my good guy friends who has liked me for a few years decided to make a move this yr since i am single. he slowly grew on me and now i love with him. i also still love my college guy too.* i and not sure if i should stick to my plan of getting back together with him or stay with the guy i am with now and officially start dating him. either way i am breaking one of these guys hearts. college guy and i were together for over a year and we have never stopped loving each other. friend guy and i have only been " hanging out" for maybe 4 months ( and maybe its just puppy love). there are things i love about one and things i love about the other. *i used to see myself marrying college guy but now im not sure, and i think what my future could be like with friend guy. what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso update, the friend guy ended up cheating on me two weeks ago :/
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reader, DiamondsAndPearls  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 Hi again. I'd definitely say the 1st love is the hardest. It took my ages to get over my 1st love. But then again i was only 15/16 at the time. Im not sure if its the same in America because obviously your at school longer so i guess your a lot more grown up but now i have left school i got to say i think everything seems harder and more pressured. Because its like a little bubble where everyone knows everything. If i where you i think i would get with friend guy. Is he going to the same college as you? Because i guess that’s a big factor. I also think everyone changes a lot in college. You meet new people form new opinions so don’t dwell on it to much. Just make a decision and go with it. There’s no way to know for sure who you are meant to be with but life is about taking leaps of faith. Don’t feel you have to go back to college guy because you said you would get back together. Your life is about you. You have to make a choice based on how you feel in your heart, Not on what others expect of you. Really hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, both of you actually helped a bit.
i might be over dramatizing this. but its on my mind 24/7. and college guy wanted to get back together this summer instead of waiting till school started. he was more in a hurry to get back to me than i was to him. wat does that mean? i was his first love as well. does that have any thing to do with how we are feeling towards each other and the fact we are tryin to make this work? both of them are great guys which makes it even harder. im also friend guys first love and dont want to hurt him if i go back to college guy because he says he will always be there for me n i jsut cant imagine hurting him!
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reader, DiamondsAndPearls +, writes (16 March 2010):
Hey. I know this must be hard for you. I kinda went through the same thing once. I had to choose between 2 guys i liked i didnt love either of them but i don't really believe that someone can be in love with 2 people at the same time. To be honest the best advice i can give you is just follow your heart. Tjats what i did. Back to whole you can't love 2 people at once. Maybe you already know who you want to be with deep down. I think i did. But i felt so horrible about letting one of them down that i just felt so pressured and didn't know what to do. So just don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Do what you truley feel is best for you and hopefully you will make the right choice. I did just that. Forgot about everyone else and followed my heart. Its our 3 year annversary this so it seemed to work for me. Really hope this help you.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 you and your college guy decided to go your seperate ways that happens in life and things change between people you have been apart from this guy for quite some time now im assuming his feelings towards you could have changed and he might have moved on i think you should stay with the guy that is close to you
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