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writes:I've been with my partner for 4 years. I have noticed in the past few months that his dad may be 'flirting' with me. We get on pretty well and I find it easier to chat with him than his wife. We tend to laugh and make jokes. Sometimes, I notice him looking from the side of my eye at the dinner table or if he says something afterwards he looks at me. He has touched my arm and my back before when I'm walking in their house. I just ignore it when he touches. I had lost some weight and become leaner and he has complimented how good I look.I do find him attractive looking especially for his age and I do like that I get on with him. I do not want it to become anything further and I do not want to ruin my relationship with my partner. I feel there is a bit of tension building. I still want to be able to chat as usual but not think anything of the other stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have already been complimenting her when she looks nice etc and in front of her husband. Sometimes she turns it back on me...
I made less eye contact with his dad tonight at dinner and spent more time talking to the mum. Normally I would hate being alone with the mum but with this situation I found it easier to chat with her. It felt really good to speak to her more. Also I think she was pretty happy about the effort I made to talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2018): Omg what a creepy old man . His poor wife having a husband like that who checks out girls half his age ewwww .
Honestly what do you see in him . Gods looking ? Yuk , good looks come from the inside and he sounds gross . I woyld give him the coldest shoulder possibly and start really admiring his wife in front of him to point out that I recognise how lucky HE is and that he. Enter knock it off before he loses her .
Instead of lapping up the attention when she says you look nice when your ready to go out somewhere why don't you start noticing when she looks great or what pretty eyes she has etc and voice it !!!!
I can bet she is way more of a catch than he deserves .
Just hearing about this guy is making my skin crawl . Your poor mother in law and partner
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 April 2018):
 I agree with Code Warrior.
If he can't be the "adult" here and ACT appropriate YOU have to be the one to set up the boundaries and not engage in these shenanigans!
How would you feel if your MOM did this with your BF? In front of you? In front of your dad?
Maybe even avoid his house all together and have "dates" - "get-together" AWAY from there for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can definitely do those things you have suggested.
My partner's mum and I did not get on for a while. I have been making more effort in recent months to interact with her more.
I forgot to add to my post - I always feel very awkward when this happens. His wife will make comments to her husband in regards to my appearance when I'm a bit more dressed up or wearing makeup.
e.g. Doesn't she look so pretty/beautiful/etc.
He often would look and smile and respond with yeah she does or yeah she is. I end up just standing there and don';t really say anything.
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