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anonymous
writes:So, I've been going out with long-term girlfriends for the past five years, since I was 15. There's never been much of a gap between long-term relationships. The first turned out to be a compulsive liar and screwed with my head quite badly, the second was a reaction to the first (although we were together for over a year) and the third who I'm currently with is basically perfect. However, I've got several major issues. Despite having a really good relationship with a beautiful girlfriend who is pretty much perfect in every way I've fallen for a couple of other women as well, but not done anything with them. It's not like I've fallen for just having sex with them but it's been total infatuation followed by genuinely really missing them afterwards. Though nothing has happened with them, in each case it was blindingly obvious there was a connection which could would deeper than friendship if it could. Because we've got on so well in both cases, it's made it all the worse. Although I have missed on the sleeping around thing at Uni I don't feel I'm really craving it at all, so it's not a case of wanting to sleep with lots of different women all the time. However, I do constantly eye up other women and I'm amazed my girlfriend doesn't notice me doing it. What I feel I need is a long period of being single, however, I know that if I was I would be ridiculously jealous of anyone my ex got with and I'd probably be craving the security of a relationship all the time. Next year my girlfriend and I will be separated by our studies (both abroad in different countries) despite coping with a long distance relationship from the start well this time its the real deal, the gap being months. Part of me is craving being single, yet I know how I'll probably behave if I am. The other half of me dearly values what I have with my girlfriend. I'm so confused with it all and feel part of me is in love with another girl!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (21 May 2009):
 People always think that 'the grass in greener on the other side' be content with what you have as the alternative isn't always as good as it seems. Respect your girlfriend and stop looking at other girls! X
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