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writes:The man im with now, i met him while i was in a 4 year relationship, i broke up with my ex to be with this new man....but now hes worried im going to do the same to him....im so confused as i cant change the past what can i do? Do you think it ruin everything in the long run?
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Actions speak louder than words. Telling him that everything will be is ok is a hell of a long way from showing it.
See, there are no absolutes in the world other than the sun rising, and setting, and that humans and animals eat,sleep, and relive themselves.
The question is so vague. So let me ask a question and then float a hypothetical out there....Did you cheat on your ex with this guy before you left your ex? I ask this because it is a natural progression that if indeed that is the case, your new man would be thinking that you may not be committed, thus forseeing what could happen to him.
Please give us some clarification, because without it no one here can truly provide you with truly good advice.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2009):
Ah the old addage of Once a Cheater Always a Cheater...
I know you didn't cheat but you met him and got close to him and had feelings for him and allowed him to have feelings for you.
I can see why he would be worried.
All you can do is point out that your old relationship wasn't working and this current relationship will never get to that point.
Explain how he is better and how you won't get to the point where you go looking for comfort elsewhere. Explain how you can talk to him about your problems where as you obviously couldn't with your last boyfriend or again, you wouldn't have got so close with another man.
Also tell him that if you even made a male friend, he would know about it and he would be able to see you getting to close and do something about it rather than blindly going on and ignoring the problem like your last boyfriend.
Good Luck!! xx
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