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*rleslie
writes:My dad and step mom just split up and my little sister (11) is taking it really hard, I want to comfort her but I don't know what to do. She's not a girly type and hates it when I give her a hug, I've been told just be there for her, but when I try to be there for her she just pushes me away. My dad is ok and depressed at the same time about this. My dad and I are trying to help my little sister though this but she just doesn't know. But, my step mom is wanting to come back everyday and then leave again.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (15 July 2009):
 some people act like that ... are angry and mean when they are sad and upset ... maybe you are better off just leaving your sister alone, she will deal with it in her own way
good luck
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reader, arleslie +, writes (15 July 2009):
arleslie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I was being there for my sister all day and now she is treating me like trash, and I wish I could help my self but I have no other choice but to treat her like trash also because of how she treated me before the split up. She just makes me so angry but I love her and want to be there for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Hey there love I'm so sorry to hear about your mom and dad......honestly there isn't really anything you can do to make her feel better. My parents split too when I was like 6 and my father got remarried and I hate that my dad chose her!! Cause when my dad just barely died not long ago she is now getting re married!! What I'm trying to say is that I get how you and your sis feel.......I can't say to to how sorry I am and if your mom just keeps leavin' then I Doubt that she's gonna stay and I wish I could make her for your family........but I can't no one can it's her own choice if she stays or goes!! Just tell your sister that your always gonna be there for her and tell her your gonna be there always and forever to talk about it and if and when she's ready that she can come to you and untill she wants to talk there isn't anything you can do to make her open up.........she will talk to you when she is ready but untill then just leave her be..........sorry but that's all I got love hope it helps........;)
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (15 July 2009):
Hey
I am very sorry to hear your story. I will try to give you some advice.
My parents almost got divorced when I was about 11. My brother was 5 at that time. They were separated for about half a year and it was soo hard. I remember taht everyone wanted to comfort me, but I didnt want them to, I wanted to be left alone .. trying to figure out, how to put them together ... thinking its my fault, cause I wasnt the good girl, they wanted.
Luckyli my parents got back toegether and it didnt take that long ...
Maybe your lil sis just wants to be left alone ... try to take her out .. or do things for her that she maybe once asked you to do, but you werent in the mode for that ... u dont have to give her a hug .. some people just dont want that ... and she might just be one of them.
My Ex bf had a family issue. His mother and father divorced and it was very ugly he said ... he was 12 when it happened. He is still messed up in his head, cause his father kept telling him how horrible his mother was and how horrible she treated them and left them alone ... he HATES his mother now. I met her, I know the full stry from faimly members and sadly - poor woman never left them ... and never did all the stuff the father said she did ... but my ex never wanted to believe it anymore ... just make sure you dont send your lil sis against any of your parnets. It is between them .. whatever happened, happened .. they have to fix it betweene them ... you, even tho you are their children, have nothing to do with that ... you will unfortunately just have to go with the flow.
Support your sister and help your parents !!!
I wish you luck!
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reader, AuntyBetty  +, writes (15 July 2009):
I have been through the same problem as a young child and i blamed myself.your dad, step mom and you should sit her down and talk to her find out how shes feeling and hopefully she should open up.with ur step mom coming and leavin maybe that isnt such a good idea at the momment because that couldmake her even more upset maybe she should stay away untill the problem is fixed
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