A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I had a strong crush on an old colleague of mine. She and I use to be so close when I first started working at my old job. We use to laugh, flirt, chat and she would stare at me and smile all the time. She came to me one day and asked me for my number and I gave it to her. We started to talk on the phone daily but I started to realize each time we spoke on the phone she would avoid me the next day at work. After awhile it came to the point where she would avoid me and flirt with other girls at work in front of me. She was really over-the-top flirting with them in my face and her and I were no longer close anymore. She still would call me on the phone from time to time, so I ask her if she wants to go out with me, she said she couldn't so I left it there. Then she avoids me even worse at work. On my last day of work she got everyone a card except for me and when I finished my last day of work I stormed out. After I left she called my phone with her cell number(which she wouldn't let me have because she used her house number to call me always because she said I was special) and I hung up on her and didn't answer her call until eventually I gave in. She asked me a stupid work question and I ended the call. I stop talking to her for a week and then I reached out to her through text message and we were talking on there well. I decided after awhile of us messaging I would ask her out again. She said no again. So I deleted and blocked her. Do you think I am over reacting? Why was she behaving the way she did? I am confused...I really thought she liked me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 Sounds to me like she likes to cause drama. It seems that she wanted attention from you, so she done what she could to get it, but then flirted with others around to make you feel jealous. Sounds to me like she is feeding her ego. You are better off away from someone like this.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 She might like you, but she isn't looking to date you. Maybe she thought it was "safe" to flirt with you (and other female co-workers) without them reading more into it.
It sounds to me like she isn't sure WHAT she wants. She LIKED the idea of texting with you, but then apparently would regret it and give you a cold shoulder the next day.
She is a FLAKE. I'd say good riddance.
AND... maybe learn from this? The work place is not a great place to be looking for a partner.
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