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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've had this on-again off-again physical relationship with this guy since I first met him at the beginning of the fall semester. It's a friends with benefits sort of situation. He's gotten a steady girlfriend during the time we've been together and I've been the "just friend" while they were steady but when they took a break we resumed our physical relationship. I know I've been played and used for physical gratification... but still I want him, want to be around him, and overall want to be with him. I'm just curious of all the aunts' opinions: What's the physchology of an attraction to guys like this? Why go back to him? Has anyone else ever experienced this?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 Most times we want what we can't have i think this is the case for you.Is it not the case that when you are looking at a dress then someone picks the last one up you want it more!I know you have had a loose relationship with this guy for a while but how must you have felt when he took up with another girl right under your nose shattered i can imagine! How long do you want him to get away with this if you're honest with yourself you want someone to love you and put you as number one in their lives not second best.I have had this in a past relationship as well so i am speaking from experience. It is best to move on - the moment you meet someone else you will realise things aren't so bad but you will have more chance of this happening if you cut all ties with this guy and if he does try to rekindle the relationship you had and you tell him to sling his hook you will feel on top of the world.I hope you are strong enough I know it is nice to feel wanted but you are young and there is someone out there who is waiting to cherish you - go find him!Be strong and good luck x
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