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writes: this is a really odd question but its really starting to worry me. i have been married for 4 years now and its been up and down most of the time. during one of these down times i met somebody over the internet. we have only ever met twice and chat quite alot on the computer. i dont really know how it happened but i just got this idea in my head that hes going to come here to find me and tell my husband everything, i know this is impossible because he only knows what city i live in he doesnt know exactly where i live and im not on the electoral list so he cant look me up either, i know im being paranoid but i suppose i just need somebody else to tell me he cant find me for me to believe it myself.
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 December 2005):
 I wouldnt worry too much.If you are not on the electoral list and this guy only knows what city you are at then really he hasnt got much to go on.Its just too time consuming.If you want to sever all links with him then do that.Just dont contact him again.Maybe it was a wake up call to say how much you do love your husband and that the thought of him finding out,panics you then maybe your marriage has a chance,work on that and forget the other man.He cant find you.
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reader, Ms Mebaby +, writes (18 December 2005):
Anyone can be found in this day and age. Ever heard of Lexus Nexus???
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2005):
 You deserve your paranoia. Stay a away from the internet until you can act like an adult.
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reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):
Agreed, the reason for this paranoia is that your feeling guilty about keeping this from your husband, to relieve your fears the only possible way to do this would be to leave your husband.. but form what your saying it sounds like this is what your afraid of, thus the only thing you could do is tell your husband about this, about the situations but ensure him that your devotion and love is all his... else just carry with that paranoia till you unconciously and unmeaningfuly push your husband away till the point of a mariiage collapse.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (17 December 2005):
 That fear and paranoia you feel is caused by your conscience gnawing away at your soul. If you don't want to be with your husband you should think long and hard and leave him. Cheating is no way to carry on. And yes, if he wanted to, this Internet lover probably *could* track you down. But I guess he's unlikely to. I would say that is the least of your problems.
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