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36-40,
*achakaRoni
writes:I have been with my boyfriend a month but known him for 14 months. During the time we were just casual he went off with another girl and broke my heart. I haven't spoke to him or seen him since Monday and its now Saturday. I know we have both been busy but i have sent him some texts. I know he hasn't got any credit but one phone call would have been nice. I feel paranoid that he may have gone off me and is trying to be cowardice bout it but I also know that if he has no credit and is busy and cant get on msn, he doesn't contact me. What do you all think?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (21 April 2007):
 I don't think lack of credit on his phone is a problem - when men are that into you they usually knock your door in. I am sure you don't want to hear that but maybe you just have to accept this relationship is not as full-on as you would like. It seems you are feeling insecure because he was with someone else and your self-esteem has taken a knock back. Work on your self-confidence so that you don't feel so hurt whatever the outcome is - if he carries on seeing you and the dating is good then that is nice, if he loses interest it is his loss!
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reader, Lau-sta +, writes (21 April 2007):
 the only thing you can do is to ring him talk to him find out where you stand otherwise if you just text him and he not relpying its going to leave you confused.
He may have reasons why he couldn't ring you but what a phone call can only take 5 mins thats all. Why couldn't he lend a mates phone or go to a pay phone there is loads about so really he doesn't have a reason sorry but am just telling you the truth
If your going out with someone you should at least be in contact once a day even of they are just ringing to say good night.
I think thr best thing to do is to ring him be fine about it act normal but get him talking and find out where you stand xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): It is too early to say, RR. If he is busy with work, as most of us are, that could be a reason. I don't know exactly what you mean by "been with". Do you mean you have an understanding? It does not seem to mean you are living together. People use phrases like this without thinking sometimes. They mean different things. A month is not a long time. I would not become too concerned yet. If you really care for him, give it some time. Next meeting, let him know you would like to be in more contact. I don't know what his feelings are. Only you can determine that. He may just be a typically "unthinking" male, sometimes. He forgets how time may have passed fast for him, but that someone else is waiting to hear from him. I plead guilty myself to that. Have some communication with him. It is the face to face and eye contact that can tell you more than words about how he feels. Women are better at verbal communication and expressing their feelings than most men are. With men, it is more actions and behavior. Give him a chance. He will explain himself if you don't push too much.
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