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*arahguerino
writes:My boyfriend of one year gets very excited over other good-looking women! I'm pretty good-looking myself, and he isn't the sexiest man alive with his belly! I am very much in love with him, and believe he truly loves me too! Why does he point out how beautiful all these other women are, when he has a hottie right at home? Reply to this Question
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reader, sarahguerino +, writes (22 April 2007):
sarahguerino is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your input, it helps alot to hear it from someone else that its not that big of a deal! Now I just have to work on not letting it bother me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): If he points them out to you, or in front of you then that is just nasty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): hi there hun i agree with every writer on here as long as he says to your face that that female was pretty or a stunna or whatever and not yearning for her behind your back thats ok he obviously trusts you wtih his feelings and can comment on an attractive girl cause he thinks that you are in thier league i dont think its anyway a put you down only the fact that he thought she was nice looking and i think that you ought to comment on the men you come across if you see a good looking lad then say something you can gather his reaction from the comments he makes and also one bit of a warning you say you love him totally then why refer to yourself as a hottie which u may well be but to him having a bellie i think you need to question your words and suss out which part of the green eyed monster has already taken over of if you just want to make yourself feel better to a world wide audience for an insecurty problem you may have
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (21 April 2007):
 I'd rather my husband remark on a beautiful woman that he noticed, and share it with me, than notice her and deny it! At least he's being honest that he HAS noticed. I'm not crazy about it, but guys look and this is the time of year that they enjoy, when all the winter coats come off and the new summer outfits are walking around. Feel free to enjoy the sights yourself and tell him if you think that the man who walked by is good-looking. What's good for the goose is good for the gander! And Mitch is right, as long as he notices you, that's the most important thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): mitch is right. your guy is with you, but hes not dead! he obviously doesnt see you as a jealous person. he trusts you and the strength of your relationship enough to tell you when he finds another woman attractive. accept that for the compliment it is. many couples would love trust like that. just look at some posts on this site to confirm that!
men will always look, and if you are honest i bet you notice the cute guys out there. you arent going to act on it, so dont think he is unless he has given you due cause. i dont think you should worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): mitch is right. your guy is with you, but hes not dead! he obviously doesnt see you as a jealous person. he trusts you and the strength of your relationship enough to tell you when he finds another woman attractive. accept that for the compliment it is. many couples would love trust like that. just look at some posts on this site to confirm that!
men will always look, and if you are honest i bet you notice the cute guys out there. you arent going to act on it, so dont think he is unless he has given you due cause. i dont thing you should worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Hi Hun, You maybe good looking but your insecure and your boyfriend can sense this,
And is finding your reaction so fun for him when he talks about and points out other women, Its also building his Ego, (This can make Mr. Belly feel like Mr. Sexy its attitude looks don’t play as much part as you think)
Next time he points out another girl try saying “oh yes she’s pretty” and then change the subject he wont know what to say he’ll probably say “your prettier” or if a pretty girl walks in front of you pretend not too notice her,
Say “what girl?” and change the subject look happy and relaxed not stressed by the fact he’s talking about other women your reaction is what he wants,
If you want him to think of you as his “hottie” start acting like it!
a Hottie is not threatened by other women because she knows shes attractive herself,
(so act as if, until your not threatened!)
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): sarhg, we ALL notice and appreciate beauty in other women. And if you are honest, you notice other men, too. Some men can be a little too "expressive" in their praise, but it does not mean they are wishing or thinking about "being with" the other women. I know, it is bothersome. I don't do it vocally, but, of course, I look. We all do. It is just how we are wired. I would not be too concerned, unless you feel he does ignore you or doesn't praise you enough. You might subtley ask him, sometime, "how do I look in this dress, or, what do you think is my best colour", etc. Ask him about what his idea of your best hair-do is. But remember, men don't choose to be with a woman just because of her looks. There are many, many reasons he wants to be with you and not some other "beauty queen". It has to do with you as a person and what he sees. If he sees your feeling for him in your eyes and actions, you have him "hooked". Tom
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