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writes: Thanks for reading because I know this may seem like a typical highschool drama, but I really am worried that my boy paranoia will continue... I always overthink. Not just like, "Oh my god, does he like me?" Overthink but, "Does he hate me, is he just trying to make me feel good?" Overthink. Right now I'm losing my mind over a guy that I really like. We've been best friends for about four-five months and two months ago he admitted that he still had feelings for me. I called him today for the first time and the conversation lasted about ten seconds. I've been freaking out over the shortness of the conversation and whether or not he really likes me, or even if I imagined him saying he likes me the other day. The biggest concern is whether or not this will go away, my ovrthinking. Is there any ways to get rid of the habit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Some people just aren't phone call type of people, ihate phone calls , but i text lots. So i wouldn't worry
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reader, hearthelper +, writes (13 June 2009):
What I think will help you is the book 1000 (or 1001) reasons he didn't call you back. and "he's just not that into you."And probably "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"(John Gray). You need to know how a guys mind works, because men and women just do not think alike.
Without these books I would still be completely clueless about what goes on in a mans head. Guys really are more simple than we are. If they don't like you enough or don't make you a priority, they won't be around you as much. They want to have fun on the journey and don't think about the destination. The mind games could be all in your head.
You can tell the way he feels about you by his actions, not what he says. If he likes you, wild horses can't keep him away. He will make plans and dates and respect your time and your schedule and your feelings. He will be happy to show you off in public. And he won't talk about other girls around you because you'll be the only star in his eyes.
and for amazing dating advice about how to attract men and keep them interested, read and practice the techniques in "You Lost Him at Hello" A saleswoman's secrets to closing the deal with any guy you want. It's such a fun, awesome book to read.
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reader, NancyLeo  +, writes (13 June 2009):
Girls, girls, girls. We don't call guys. We wait for them to call us! When you do talk be nice and bubbly with a sassy personality. They like that. Don't be too nice to them thou or too available. Do let them know you are there to help and they can count on you for anything but don't go overboard. Always have that pretty smile on your face and have a good attitude about things but don't fake it. HS crushes are so common. I remember I had a couple crushes on guys and now that I am 25 I am like, geez he wasn't that good looking but I guess only when you are a teenager love is blind. There will be other guys you will be attracted to but you should have a good reputation and still be a good girl do good in school for your own benefit. It will get you places, guys come and go. I am telling you right now I am starting my own Non-profit and have about 10 guys dieing to date me. The thing is I have not time to date and it feels like a job to schedule Jon at 10 am on a Sat, Erik at 1pm on Sat and Brandon at 5pm on the same day. And I can assure you I will be talking to only one of them next week. Weeding out the bad ones. That is what it takes. You are too young to worry about love but if you do find it welcome it in your life and make sure it's real and not just a crush. God bless! Good luck my dear!
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