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writes: my ex girlfriend lives in another state. she got pregnant by me and everything was fine for a while. i was going to save up money and move out there, to be by her. not with her, but by her to help out during and help raise my child. but all of a sudden, she was telling me that a child needs to be part of a loving family. that it needs to have a loving mother and father, together. now she wont take my calls or answer my e mails or text messages. i dont know what to do.. please help me. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): It sounds like she may be playing games if you get no response for a long while I would go ahead with your plans to help support your child. better yet send her clothes for the baby diapers etc.. to show you are willing to help out reguardless if your with her or not I'm sure that baby will be loved just the same you should still be a dad to the baby no matter what she acts like try calling her relatives or worst comes to worst when you move there get settled and take her to court for visitation rights no matter what that baby needs a dad. good luck
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (29 December 2005):
Sounds like one of two things. She is either trying to force your hand and hopes that by cutting off contact then you will decide that rather than lose your child you will want to be in a relationship with her again OR she has met someone else and is trying to make things simpler.Either way then if you dont want her back then it doesn't change the fact that you are the babies dad and she shouldn't be using the child against you or stopping you from seeing the child but sometimes people don't think too clearly. Keep on writing and saying how much you want to see the child and that your baby will be much more stable with two parents who love the child who are apart , rather than playing happy families and splitting up at some point.If she keeps on ignoring you then legal action is one possibility as you have a right to see your child but I'll keep my fingers crossed that you manage to get her to open the lines of communications.I split up from my babies dad while I was pregnant (my choice) and I needed a lot of time to think so didn't see him often. My daughter is nine months now and he is starting to have regular contact so maybe your ex needs space
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