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writes:Hi so I have this problem...well I dont know if it is so much a huge issue but just curious if other people feel the same way.I have been noticing that my sex drive isnt all that high. It isn't all that low but not super high if I compare it to some of my sex-crazed friends. When I am not having sex, I am not really thinking about how I want it and I can control myself super easy if im making out with someone and what not. My friends always ask me how I make it look so easy. ...However, I feel like when I do have sex, thats when my hormones shoot up and I want it all the time. Its like the second my body realizes what ive been missing, I want it over and over again. Then when I stop having sex for a while (meaning like after two weeks or so) I forget all about it and im back to not caring for a while. Is this normal? Does this happen to anyone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): Yeah that's perfectly normal. When I'm single I don't care about sex at all unless I'm presented with an opportunity to have sex, then I get a rush of blood and a pretty strong need.
I've only ever "needed" sex when in relationships, and even then I can go without for long periods if needs be.
OP sex is like anything pleasurable it can be addictive like a drug. There's nothing wrong with being in control of that, sex-crazed people are generally the one's who do stupid and even harmful stuff to fill their need.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (17 November 2013):
 I hope it's normal because I'm exactly the same as you! I've always felt glad to be that way so I'm not too tempted to do regrettable things ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): I guess that happens to people ... Different people different needs and wants and different relationships
I think when u meet that person who your body will connect with u will see a steady pattern
Its mostly about what your body wants and needs
Mabye if your in casual relationships your just filling up on your needs because it might be a month or so till you engage in sexual activity again ? Or mabye u look so cool and relaxed while kissing because your not that attracted to the person i mean the guy could be good looking but do u feel the heat?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): It's been so long I can't even remember what sex feels like. I think you just start getting used to not getting any after a while and end up occupying yourself with other things. I wouldn't exactly say that I don't care about it though. When you stop measuring the length of your dry spells in weeks and start counting by half decades you start caring a little more about it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 November 2013):
 Sure, that happens to plenty of people! It's like smoking - you're fine when you've quit and you carry on with your life as normal... until you have just one and suddenly you're buying packs again.
I think you're perfectly normal. And hey, having a healthy amount of self-control is a great quality. Good for you!
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