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writes:How do you all of a sudden start liking anal sex? out of now where My husband and i both have helped each other do this and we like it. is this a normal step in a marriage after 5 years? and, i have to stay sometimes its ok and sometimes I'm not relaxed enough is this common?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): I don't think it is AB-normal. Vaginal intercourse is more common :) but anal intercourse is not uncommon among heterosexual couples. Certainly consensual experimentation is normal. You both happened to stumble onto something you like. That's great!According to statistics in Jack Morin's "Anal Pleasure and Health," (which he references to various other sources) over half of hetero women have tried it and one quarter of those under 35 engage in it "at least occasionally." I think that means you and your husband are officially not abnormal.Yeah, it's a taboo. But in my book that should not stop you. It doesn't mean it's bad or wrong. It's just a taboo.On your comment about being relaxed, you are not nuts. Your butt has two sphincter muscles - an inner and an outer. You can control the outer. You cannot control the inner directly - it's involuntary and responds to fear and anxiety. It may tighten up even if you think you're relaxed. So - it's not up to you, it's up to your butt. If you're fearful or anxious, maybe you need to do something else for a while. Keep at it; you'll figure your butt out. More power to you both!
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reader, Sandman +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Experimenting when in a trusting, monogomous, loving, and caring relationship such as yours (marriage) is always a good thing.
Liking something that is still considered in some circles "taboo" doesn't make it wrong or bad. It means that you like something that is taboo. And when it's between you and your husband, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because you are giving your husband pleasure and he is giving you pleasure.
Hope this helps.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 I guess anal sex is not everyones cup of tea, but there are are alot of couple's out there who practice this. I would say there is nothing wrong with it and is a normal step in a marriage. You have been married for 5 years, so its natural to experiment and try new things, if you both like it and feel comfortable with it then carry on, when you don't feel relaxed the try something else.
All the best x
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