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*oulrebel
writes:hi everybody,my question would seem very familiar to all of you, im in fact in love with my boss, and this is driving me crazy, i tried to approach him by sending him anonymous letters, he replied of course by curiousity...the story went more complicated ...he knows that its me but i always try to make him doubt about it especially that i know he is not that guy to confuse work and private life ..sometimes i feel he looks at me with a different way...soft...lovely deep sight...!others i feel im tired from this and i want to quit...but deeply it hurts me a lot ...im confused i can do nothing to help myself...i feel i can t carry on like this and i have to quit maybe ...but there is some other force which makes me stay ...because its the only way i can see him even if its for very short moments from far away during work hours...i feel like this bird with broken wings ..im lost ..please help??
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reader, soulrebel +, writes (6 August 2008):
soulrebel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he is not married
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): no he is not married
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Is he married?
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reader, soulrebel +, writes (5 August 2008):
soulrebel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your messages ..i read them carefully..and you are right in what u said im in fact already thinking of leaving the job because of this story ..for the moment i try to concentrate on my work while im still there and forget about him because as you said the ball is on his side and if he didnt react its his choice anyway!!!...the most important thing for me is that i dont regret what ive done ..and if i had to it twice i would do it again ...sometimes i think its really miserable , i dont know how it happened to me , worse i do blame my heart for this choice ...but what happened just happened ...and what will be will be...thankx a lot for your advices
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (5 August 2008):
 office relationships are hard to maintain. If he knows you have a crush on him and doesn't pursue you, then you have to let it go. I recommend transfering or getting another job. Being away from him is the only way to get over him. Sometimes you think you're crazy about him, but you really maybe you pick a crush that you know was unattainable. Good luck
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reader, kenny  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 I think that if all this is causing you heartache then maybe the best option would be to leave, or maybe get a transfer to another department. When we are in love with someone we can't have we develop a kind of infatuation, we take every look, every touch, every smile, as something more than what it is, the feeling gets stronger and stronger as time goes on, and ultimately things get harder. I think its good that he does not confuse work & private life, so many people start up office relationships. But the problem with this is when things are sweet then all well and good, but when/if things turn sour it can get very messy for everyone. I mean maybe your boss does fancy you and is holing back beacuse of the co-worker thing. Why don't you find onother job, or apply for the transfer, then maybe you and him could then become good friends, then more. Of course this is just my advice, you must do what you feel is right for you, your gut feeling.
I wish you all the best & good luck x
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