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writes:I'm in a huge dilema. I'm having a rough time dealing with being alone all the time. Ever since school let out for the summer, I don't see a lot of my friends as much as I use to (I live on campus, while most of my friends live off-campus). My roommate also moved out, so I'm usually alone about 15-20hrs. a day. This is kind of disgusting, but I masturbate almost every day in order to pass the time and make it feel like I'm with someone. But today, I tried to look on craigslist for a woman to hook up with. I couldn't find one, but instead found a transvestite who looked almost like a woman. One thing led to another, and out of pure desperation, I hooked up with her. I feel completely ashamed of myself because I shouldn't have let this happen, and I shouldn't have let myself get this out of control with my hormones. I'm really introverted and it's really hard for me to be the outgoing person I want to be, but does anyone have any advice for me so that I don't make this mistake again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): Don;t feel bad about it. We all make mistakes and do stuff out of loneliness sometimes., Try to join a website to make freinds. Maybe a meet up group ( meetup.com) they are great for pursuing stuff. Take action to do things. then it will change.Good luck and I wish you the best. xx
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reader, Nephertite  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Hi there... you know the things is we all do things that we regret. It's normal. But, it's what we do to get out of this rut that matters. I am sorryt hat you feel this way. You probably feel sick because, toy ou it's not the norm. But like Honeypie said, transvestites are people too and it's not nice to be thought of in that way. SO maybe to make yourself feel better, jsut take it as something you would ot normally do (because we all have tastes and preferences) and that it was out of the norm but make sure you don't do it again.Again it's easy to be in a rut, but you just need to step out from it. Don't keep yourself shut in. If you feel lonely, do something fun other than masturbating. Try reading, at a public place. Have a coffee and read. Spend your days outside. The thing is I'm pretty introverted too. But sitting at public places in a little corner is nto that bad. Ypu keep to yourself and you get fresh air. But if it's more of a human connection you are looking for, try to find a friend whom you can be confortable with and go out! dont' shut urself in your dorm. It's realyl not healthy. Go to the gym. Pick a new exercise. Or jog.. do somethign that will help you get your mind off things. Try to be happy and work on yourself from within love and you will feel better. THings will look different and your aura changes too u know?.. Take care please and please work on your inner self. LOVE yourself. Don't ever focus on your negatives. No point feeling sick now.. it's all been done. Move on love :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 June 2012):
 It's called curiosity. Sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn new things. Maybe for you, it is to STOP looking for any random HOLE to hook up with in order to feel less lonely.
Accept that you have limits and stick to what you feel/believe is the right choice. NO one needs sex so badly that they will screw anything with a pulse, come on!
PS I'm not bashing transvestites, but a transvestite is NOT a woman. HE is a living human being and honestly you should have more respect for them and yourself to do things that you later feel such great shame over.
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