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writes: I am am Indian male and I am on a ldr with an Indian gal leading to marriage. But I am having trust issues.She started to lie to my family about where she goes, what she does. I think she might be lying to me as well. I found her with many white lies which I ignored as they were harmless. Some days she gets very moody with me and starts swearing at me for no reason. She told me she doesn't have any friend, but I found out that she has a male friend whom she says is her sister's school friend.Yet she calls him and talks with him and uses him to help her with her some of her works and shopping. She has even bought him birthday gifts and he too has got her in return.I don't know how many more friends she got like this to help her.She nows tells me that she lost her virginity coz she was abused as a kid.Its not matter of virginity... I am unable to trust her. What shall I do.Our wedding is due soon.pls help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Denizen,
I do live abroad. She herself told me she wants to get away from India and made me promise her to marry her
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 December 2015):
Postpone the wedding until things become clearer. I agree with you that it all smells fishy. I wouldn't be happy going along with this marriage if I were you. Are you both living in the same country? I notice you have posted a US flag. Is she in India? Is she trying to marry her way into America?
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (19 December 2015):
Base your decisions on the very strong likelihood that things are not going to get better. You're seeing the relatively "good" side of her now. It will get worse after marriage.
It is no fun to call of a marriage but doing so is for your own good. If you don't, you'll be regretting it for a long time. As a long-distance relationship, there is probably more bad stuff going on than you are already aware of.
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