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writes: Me and my gf have been together for just under 2 years now, she is 17 and I am 20. I can honestly say I truly love her and she loves me. I was her 1st sexual partner and 1st major boyfriend. We've been very happy together but in the past month weve been arguing a bit more than usual, then out of the blue she finished with me, saying that she need time alone to think what she wants and it's best if we don't chat or text each other. I've spoken to many of her friends, even her mum, and they all have been surprised because we get on so well. What should I do? Leave her to make her own mind up and risk losing her? Or keep trying to win her back and risk pushing her away? I really love her and see her as a best mate as well as a girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): Well If I were you, and I was afraid of pushing someone away by trying too hard, or losing them by not doing anything, do just a little. If you don't do anything, she'll think you don't care, if you do too much, she'll think you're obsessed.. I'd try calling her, emailing her, texting her, once a day or so, and just say something like "hey, just wanted to tell ya I was thinking of ya" just let her know you still think of her and care about her. Let her know you still love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2005): Hi, I sympathise with you as the exact same has just happened to me. We have just moved in our first house and he's left me to think. I am trying so hard to leave him to think but am so scared of losing him that I can't help but text. I hope I'm not puching him away. Anyway, I hope you sort things out and wish you all the happiness in the world. Hayley xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2005): I would leave flowers on her doorstep with a note just saying,( fill in the gaps for yourself )I'll be in .....coffee shop at ... on... if you fancy meeting up. Missing our laughs and chats, hope you can come? .... x. Romance is an excellent way to soften problems and keep things light and fun.Showing her that she is important to you would be the best thing. If you don't try she may think you don't care. When you do meet up keep in mind that she is looking for new things in life and you may have to just wish her well and no hard feelings. She will always have a soft spot for you, don't spoil it right at the end. Happy memories.
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reader, x-clare-x +, writes (12 April 2005):
A girl can change a hell of a lot between the ages of 15 and 17. she is still young and probably doesn't know what she really wants. I think you should give her a bit of time and then talk to her to try to establish exactly what she's feeling. Sometimes people do have bad patches and they just have to try to sort through their feelings to decide what they want to do next. I hope it all goes well for you hun! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2005): I honestly think that you should give her about 2 weeks and if she doesn't tell you how she feels then, get in touch with her and say "listen, I think we really need to talk, so can we meet for lunch somewhere?" Then when you have a get-together set up, Just be like I really love you and I don 't know what all of the sudden went wrong, but I really thought we had something so please tell me how you feel about us.-- Now if she wants to give it another chance then great, but if she just says she doesn't feel that spark any more and she doesn't want to be with you than just let it go, and maybe you guys can still be friends. I promise You you will find someone that loves you more than anything and you guys will have a great life together.
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