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writes:I have been with my partner for two half years,we are both fifty,we are very young looking and young minded. We get on so well together, we never argue, he is my true soul mate,before me, he was single for 14years, so his life has been women and the internet,he was on the internet on a dating sites one year into our relationship i found that he was talking and arranging to meet this girl in the uk for sex,on valentine feb09, I know cos i found out through his phone bills, and I rang her she had told me everything, but she said that he was still in love with this girl (me) and that he never had a good sex with her, and was very horny,(not true sex was great)I confronted him, he denied until I told him how I found out. His comment to me was to get rid of his lap top, and just have one, and I now know his email and pass word, this was a no no area before, he was very protective of the lap top before and would not let me near him when he was on it, I know why now,he has also changed his mobile number. All this situation has made me very insecure. Christmas we had split up for a month, he was an ex special forces Sergent in the army, and has always worked all his life and to be without work for the last year practically drove him into depression, he has always been a provider for me and his two grown up children,he is a proud and very generous man,things was getting bad and he was taking everything out on me, Christmas time was the breaking point his daughter of 17yrs was on to him wanting everything under the sun money, I mean 700 hundred ipod phone etc etc, this was getting on top of him, so he lashed out at me and put a knife to my throat and called me a black c--t completely out of character, cut a long story short thats when I left. I was broken hearted and insecure, but we both found it hard living apart, we worked things out and are back together, he has work now thank god. My problem is my insecurities and my grown up children has isolated him, for what he has done to me, so any family functions i have to go on my own. help help dont what to do...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 Wow wow wow. A KNIFE to your throat ? A black c**t?
Girlfriend, put your head under the cold water tap and come to your senses.
Physical violence should be a relationship deal breaker on principle, and in this case how do you know that next time, if he gets even more stressed ,he won't actually drive that knife into your neck ?
As for the racial slurs, of course your grown up kids have isolated him !, what do you expect, that they'd pat him on his back ?? In fact, they have shown admirable restraint,if that's all they did,
since I don't believe in violence I have raised my son with the same values , and to stay away from any physical confrontation, but suppose somebody calls his mom , say, a "dirty whop "... uhm I don't know, I really don't know .
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