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writes:hey everyone just need some advice... i recently gave away my virginty to a person that i am with.. we both love each other and i felt it he was the right guy... anyway the issue however is the fact that he is alwaysss on it... our sex life is great and i do love it when we do it... its just hes alllllwaaayyysss wants it lol... is this just a guy thing or is he doing it just to give me the practice lol its good but its not that good that everytime im with him we have to do it...any ssuggestions or advice on what to do as i dont alwayys want to do it
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (17 September 2008):
 I'd say it's a guy thing, but that doesn't mean you have to go along with it.
I remember being in a similar situation - my boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other, and after that first time, he wanted it every time he saw me. Which was of course flattering, but there's only so much sex you can have before you start to walk bow-legged.
Now I'm wondering - are you actually feeling like you /have/ to have sex with him whenever you see him? It;s one thing to want to keep him happy, but quite another to feel like sex is compulsory. Just because you've started having sex doesn't mean you can't still say no. He'll just have to suck it up.
Besides, if you're not feeling it, the sex is going to be average at best. So it's best to either leave it until you're raring to go, or see if he can ah, warm you up a bit. (I've actually found that playing the 'see if you can make me want to have sex' game to be some damn good foreplay... Just a tip. ;-))
In conculsion - just let him know. If you don't want to have sex, tell him. And let him know what you've told us - that you aren't keen on doing it ALL THE TIME. I'm sure he'll understand.
Good luck. =)
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reader, saltwater +, writes (16 September 2008):
 It's definitely a man thing.
How long have you been going out? Usually you always have sex a lot early in a relationship....then it just evens off and goes more to a "normal" level after a period of time.
However, he has to respect your wishes as well; if you don't want sex at that moment then tell him. There is such a thing as overkill. You shouldn't have to feel that you should have to have sex just because he does. Balance and respecting peoples wishes are the keys to a good relationship. And sex is something that you have to balance.
Take care.
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