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writes:Hi, im 21 and my boyfriend of 3 years is 42 and i need help. We've been having trouble with intamace for over a year. We go months without touch. We were so wild and crazy 3years ago, we'd go on websites and play we had a threesum and other things i never thought i would ever do and didnt like it but its what turned him on. Then it just died like overnight. Why? What changed? Was it me? I still love him he wants to get married. we've lived together ever since we meet. I just dont get turned on anymore. and he's allways so angree. I use to be a sex freak. I've tried sex talk, story, role play, dressing up noting works. Its almost like i dont want to be touched like that anymore. I've tried pretending i was with Johny Depp but the thought of any man touching me makes my skin croul. He always wants me but im never in the mood! I dont want to hurt him or make him feel im draggen him along. What can i do? Im thinking about letting him have a sex buddy. Will that help? So will someone please help me!!!
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reader, loulou713 +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Hey :) I have had similar experience with my fiancee. We are both 22 and we have been together for 2 years. We don't live together but we spend a lot of time together. I'm always in his house or he is over my house. We also used to have a wild sex life. I used to love being with him. We used to do it every single day. This was in the first months after we got together. But something changed and we barely do it and if we do, I am never in the mood. I just don't want to be touched by him. The problem is the place. I used to go over his house, be alone, do whatever we wanted to do and then he used to take me home. But I started to sleep over and stay there for days. Then he moved with his aunt and they are in the house most of the time. And it's always the same room, same bed, same everything. My advice to you is to try going to a motel or a vacation. Try a different place. Make him dance for you, make him strip for you :) make some changes. I know clothes and role plays won't work because you are the one trying to change things. He has to get you interested, he needs to do something to make you want him.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 hi
he is twice your age, so does that make him unattractive to you? when we are young we 'grow up' and realise that or idea of what we want has changed. maybe you resent him for the threesome that he persuaded you to have? maybe you are bored with him and the sex after being together a few years and living together from the start. does he take you to nice places or are you just at home most of the time? maybe the angry side of him has made you feel less for him? maybe the fact that he wants sex a lot makes you feel under pressure and that stops you from getting turned on? could be any one of these reasons, or a mixture of the above, or something you have not mentioned. not a good sign if he is making your skin crawl, not touching for months and rather than sort out the problem with him you would rather just let him get on with it with a sex buddy instead of you. are you depressed and if so, can you think why? is it just because of problems you are having with him or is there anything else in your life that makes you stressed/upset/down? i can tell from what you have said that you are not horny coz you're not happy, you just need to have a good think and figure out why and then take the necessary action to fix it
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reader, petina1 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 I think your relationship has come to and end.All the thrill in the first few years has now run it's course. You both can't just live a normal life after all that. He may have lost respect for you as well. Was he using you to boost his ego during that time, had he just come out of another relationship, was you on a rebound with him, fulfilling his sexual desires at the time. you really need to analyze it. If he's getting angry as well then you have to be careful. Don't let him have a sex buddy. Just leave him.
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