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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together on and off, but mostly on for just over three years now. I am 25 and he is 22. We had a great sex life for the first year then we had some rough times, he had fallen back into smoking pot on a regular basis, like multiple times a day. Well things have been pretty good between us for awhile now and he has been sober for three months. Although our sex life sucks. We only have sex about a couple of weeks. I ask him why we dont do it more often and he never really has an answer. I knew that he had looked at porn before but I didnt know to the extent. I found a site that he pays to use the other day and when I asked him about it he got very defensive. He finally admitted to looking at it at least a couple times a week. I am upset because it has affected our sex life. He tried to tell me that he does it cause it is easier and he is worried about getting me pregnangt, although i have been on the pill for years. I dont understnad. My friends are saying maybe he just isnt into you like that anymore. I am just confused cause he wants to spend lots of time with me, theres just not much sexual stuff and he cant stop looking at the porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Thats happend to me... too much porn f***s you up. you don't get an erection as big as you would with porn. uhm thats why i don't like do to have sex alot 'cuase my erection isn't as big as it can potentially get. so basically, you don't turn him on enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): Ask him to be upfront and honest with you - does he still have feelings for you? From what you say, he does enjoy time with you - do you seem to get along the same, aside from the sex? If you're still having fun together, I'm not going to say he's lost his luster for you.
Many men suffer from porn addiction. It can ruin their sex life, being caught up in the sex life of others and the fantasies. Talk to him about his new problem - there are even "Porn Addicts Anonymous" (or something along those lines).
If you are desperate for sex, do the nasty in front of the television or computer while the porn is turned on. Never fails.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): I think your boyfriend has a problem with porn and frankly this is an insult to you, he is really into the porn to the degree that he prefers it to the real thing, who knows why he is doing that, but he has an addictive personality and he has replaced his addiction to pot and alcohol with the porn....he needs to find a new hobby, are you sure this relationship is worth it?
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