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writes:I am feeling really unloved by my boyfriend of two years. At first we were really close, and did a lot of things together and we're inseperable. He said and did all the right things.But lately, it's just been a rocky road and I mean rocky. He acts like a complete jerk at times and doesn't even apologize for it. Like yesterday, I was crying and feeling lonely, and I just wanted to talk to him but he didn't answer my texts and told me he fell asleep, so I asked him to come over today so I could spend time with him and he was mad that he had to ditch his friends, and spend his saturday just sitting around.Two years ago, sitting around and just being together would of been enough. I just feel like he's trying to break away from me, and he wants more space and more time to go off and do his own thing.I try to be understanding of that, because I know everyone needs their space, but it would be nice if I felt appreciated. He is sometimes so rude and impulsive, he told me he's tired of me always crying (while I am crying) and he's tired of all those 'drama' again.. while I am crying, is that something you say to someone whom you love?He always tells me I am number one and he can't live without me.. Well I'm starting to think he may need a little reminder.. I'm scared to break up with him because I don't want to have any regrets and I dont wanna feel that sense of loneliness without him, because I do want to make things work.. we have been together for 2 years and do love each other.But I don't get why he's acting like this, I have done nothing wrong yet, I feel like he always seems to think I have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): Men go through a pms like man thing occasionally. (Pissy man syndrom lol) If I were you I would just avoid him for a little while until things calm down. Its better to not cause a problem than it is to fix the problem when there is one. Good luck and remember that women are beautiful
strong independent creatures but men are not so lucky.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (22 May 2011):
 If you want to be appreciated, show him that just by listening to you you feel appreciated. When you talk more than he has the capacity to listen, he feels like you are using him as an emotional punching bag. Crying won't make him want to appreciate you. Men also don't see the point in talking over problems that has no resolution. A relationship is give and take. When people get married they become close, sometimes your spouse is the only person you can talk to. Men pull away because they are afraid of the intensity of a woman's emotions. To tell a woman to just stop crying is to deny her sense of self as a woman. What you can do is tell him sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on, and that you trust him to be your emotional rock. Tell him what usually makes you feel better. Be it a hug, some distraction like a comedy, a walk in the park together, or a dessert. It's good if you can become more self sufficient in doing this but sometimes when negative moods strike you need someone to remind you that it's not all that bad, and that it will pass and tomorrow will be a better day. He seems like a jerk but in reality he doesn't know what to do to make you feel better.
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