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writes:Me and my boyfriend (ex for the time being) keep on splitting up and getting back together. when we split up we both seem its the best thing to do and say horrible things to each other and are glad its over, but then a week later, maybe less we end up talking and get back together. please help, im confused and i dont know what to do. i love him, he loves me, but we do nothing but argue. i dont want to keep on breaking up, how can we make a real go at this without breaking up? most people will say leave him for good. but we cant do it. can you help me?`
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (26 June 2007):
 I think the whole thing here is are you asking listening to what each other is saying as most of us react to a situation without actually understanding why it happened in the first place.
I agree with Yummy Mummy that talking is the best thing.
I would also suggest perhaps going to visit a professional counsellor such as Relate if you cannot do it yourselves as you will learn the technique of listening with them and even if it is only one session for about £20 - £30, it may be money well spent.
If after this you still continue to argue then I would say that there is a incompatibility thing going on here and whilst you say you love one another perhaps you are not right together.
However, I would say try the talking first and then the counselling before saying oh it's over.
Are you arguments over major things or stupid things?
Do you live together or do you still both live at home?
Do you have arguments about the time you see one another or do you argue about lack of money, or other things?
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Stop ending it with each other then. Rather then ending it with each other take some time out after an argument to chill out then talk about things. If you can talk to each other before an argument kicks off then that's even better.
Me and my partner constantly argued in our early relationship and it got us both really down. We then started chatting whenever something got to us that the other did rather then snap at them for it. We still do argue but most of the time now we sit and chat. I love talking to my guy because he always knows what to say to make me feel better without lying or just saying it for the fact it makes me feel better.
Good Luck!
xxxxx
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