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anonymous
writes:Due to working, I moved to another place which is far from my gf. We can no longer meet each other. The next time I meet her will be end of next year.It becomes a distance relationship. It has been few months now. Everything is doing great. My gf is going to work soon. She has not work for a long time, a person who changed her mind very fast and I don't comes first.For example, she will spend the time talking to me online if only she is free. If she has things to do, she rather do that first even though it can be done later. Then, it ended we couldn't talk at all.She is still there online but asked me to leave to do my work that she said her work will take a long time. What work could it be? She is not working. Do typing a resume takes 3-5 hours?I am worried that with the new environment, meeting new peoples, she might fall for another guy. I am not saying she will look for it but when people spends time together a lot, they might get the click.Same thing might happen to me? Well, I get used to the new environment and nothing changed. Her characteristics are way different than mine. I felt so insecure.She is around the age as mine. Is women really settled down at this age?Expressing my concern to her is not the way because she will think that I don't trust her. I have been thinking if she let another guy comes into our love then she doesn't love me that much at all. It is great to know now than when we married.Saying is easy but doing is hard. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): First of whole, thank you for the advices.
I would be very happy if my gf would think that way, communication is important for long distance relationship.
I don't think she get it. If I need to take the first step in everything, I feel that no matter what she tries to do, it is no longer valuable.
She can think and should have know we are getting further away, both physically and emotionally. She choose not to have time with me. Hopefully, I can move on.
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Long distance relationship is abit hard, i must say. It is my case.. but we never miss to talk to each other. Not a single. We always keep space and make time for each other to communicate. We enjoy our converstaion everytime. We text, we skype and we phone!
I feel frustrating sometime being apart but he is so good. He emotionally comfort me. Never let me down. Eventhough, we are thousand miles away from each other, but i feel so close to him.. Communication is so important. Explain this to your GF. If she loves you, she needs to make time for you. Best wishes to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Hey,
I had a long distance relationship and found that it will only work if you both really want it. It's very hard work to maintain feeling as you hardly see each other, that is why it's very important to speak to each other as much as possible. Do you have webcam? Because then maybe if you saw each other every time you spoke it'll feel more realistic? As for writing resumes, yes i do think they take a long time! Don't forget that she might be feeling the same way as you but shows it different? You need to tslk to her and ask her if this is really what she wants so that you know where you stand!
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