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writes:I want to be happy. Im going to be happy with my boyfriend, we're going to be happy. And we're going to shut everybody else out. But right now, i need help, okay he's called all that day when i ended it. And now today's the second day and no call not even once. So if i'm ready to talk now, how am i supposed to go about doing that?Because A. why should i call?,i dont have to i didnt do anything wrong. and B. he should call but he's tried. and C. Should i just give a couple days or what? and finnally D. do nothing and let it ride out, because i know he's leaving anyway. Shouldn't i have at least thoughts we might work. Because you know what i am so freaking tired of everybodys else opinion and sya so. But what about me, what about how i feel, what about my say so in this it is my life, You know?
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reader, Brightstars +, writes (13 May 2011):
Brightstars is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your opinions. And to make anyone understand this let me say this, I broke up with him because the 2 nights ago my house phone rings and it's late in the morining. And it's for my bf it's his guy friend, they talk just for a minute, and hangs up, literly 3 seconds later, my phone rings again same number and everything, he answers it thinking it was his guy friend and it's a female voice i hear with my ears, and he says its a girl i used to work with. Now i was pissed at the time because let's be honest some freaking zoo creature calls my house. At the middle of the night.? Like ok! So.. i really did not kick him out, he left as if he got caught. Now im not paranoid, this situation has happened before but not so dramactic. Ans as of shutting everyone out, im referring to his immature mother, and aunts, and that's funny thats the same thing his mother, aunts said about me calling me immature, like hello, what the hall kinda of world we living in now, Umm how old are they, and they're calling me immature, i dont see anybody else picking on your young sons gf, like old lady your the immature one writing me a letter, Pshhh please sweetie. Really?! So thats what i meant by shutting his dear ol mom and imature aunts out! And why the hell would i stand by and let them be happy,?? did hell freeze over or something, did i hit my head or something? No! So i'm going to be happy. And i didnt break up with him, we did not say anything. We didnt just SAY "OH, AND BY THE WAY WERE OVER" no did not happen that way, i know maybe it should of, My point is shutting these imature 40 50 year old's out and let me and be, whatever it is we need to be. And thank you ever so much for opinion's and answers. Just wanting to know how should i approach this. Oh and i didnt answer because during this arguement he was leaving, the next day i woke up he broke mymailbox, i was still a lil sour. Thats why. Thanks again reader's. Brightstars
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): I agree with the first response: if you want him, why did you break up? You say you did nothing wrong, but you want to be happy with him, oh, and by the the way, YOU dumped HIM?
Why would you want to shut everyone else out of your life? It won't make your troubles go away. You sound very confused, and you don't have a very mature view on how to be in a loving relationship. Games have no place in a real relationship. Say what you mean and mean what you say, and if he can't do the same, then end it.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Sorry this doesnt make much sense! You ended the relationship? But now you say you want to be happy with him? So why on earth did you break up with him if you want to be with him?!
You cant just break up with him, ignore him and then expect him to come running when you decide you are ready, that is incredibly immature and your ex boyfriend will be really hurting right now. He thinks that you dumped him and then wouldnt answer the phone so you are not talking to him - he must be feeling pretty awful right now. So dont expect that just because you are ready to talk, he is going to want to listen. You have hurt him and he might not want to hear it, you might have blown your chance with him.
I cant really answer any of your questions without knowing why you broke up, why you ended it with him but now want to talk to him again, and where he is going (you mention he is leaving). Please give more information otherwise there is not a lot else I can say!
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