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writes:i been with my ex for 1year 7 months everything was good, till she moved in . i thought she was trying to get pregnant.. and i just freaked so i just stopped having sex.. i wish i talked to her but diddnt .now she left in september and i kept blowin every chance she gave me to get back with her .. i sent a text explainin why we wasnt having sex cos i was scared to be a dad but did want to , and she text back sayin she hated me and to f*** off .. i tried my best to make it up to her, i know i shouldnt have text , but my head was a mess. in december she text to come over and i thought we was gonna make up , then she put off the first meet, then in second she told me she cuttin all ties changin phone blockin me on facebook and dont want nothing more to do with me . she dont love me no more.. cos of a text .. im well guttin i love her more than anything just diddnt comunicate my feelings when i should.. the whole break up was with text and it shouldnever have been that way.. we grown up and in end we didd comunicate .. we loved each other now she hates me.. i know she wants a baby well she did with me, but now she met a guy who had a vasectomy and gettin really involved with him.. im so gutted i want her back so much . i know i got to move on but before no sex we wanted everything together once i stopped freakin out.. do you think she in rebound relationship and wil want kids again cos she wont with new bloke. who is nearly 40 and got 3 kids anyway.. sorry my message is all over the place.. its just i not coping well ..been doctors and time off work.. i need her back to prove im the bloke to have a life with
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Oh dear, I am SO sorry to hear of the pain and confusion you're going through!
Do you think you would be prepared to have a baby with her and be together for the long term while the child grows to adulthood? If you are clear that you would, and are prepared to support a family both emotionally and financially, my suggestion is that you send a letter - not a text - telling her so, and how much you love her and see if she is willing to at least meet and talk with you. Much of what you have written to us you might put in a letter.
To show you're serious, send it registered mail so there will be no question of her not receiving it.
THEN if you don't hear back will be the time to start thinking of moving on.......good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): I think for now you have to accept it's over. Get yourself together and stop falling to pieces. She is with someone else and hasn't got any time for you. Whether her current relationship works or not is another thing. You can not bank on that breaking up. So, as painful as it is, you have to get on with life. There is the old saying - you don't know what you have got until its gone. Don't let that happen again. Communication is vital in all relationships, it might have saved the relationship with her.
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