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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm unsure of my situation and where I should turn from here.I have been in a long distance relationship where we hardly get to see each other. When we are together it's great and there are hardly any problems, but when apart it's difficult I feel I don't handle it well. I love her and want a future with her, but it's complicated.When I'm angry I tend to ignore people, not as punishment to make others feel bad. I just like to sleep on my problems most of the time. She accused me of two things that hurt me, the first was sending indecent photos to her sister and also seeing other girls romantically. None of this was true.She has a way of spinning the blame onto me, when she is the one at fault somehow It's me hurting her feelings because I got angry. We argued most recently over silly things and when she had the time to visit me, she didn't and I reacted wrongly to this. I just wanted sometime with her.Other things happened and we/I said it's over.After two weeks I sent her a message saying I was sorry for my part in the arguments. She said she missed me etc and it looked like we might sort things out.I held my tongue through the you hurt me etc...even though I think the opposite, but last night she seemed off with me. Again avoiding an opportunity to visit me and I asked if there was another man. She said she didn't know who to choose...I'm not sure where this came from in just two weeks, either she fell in love with a guy really quick or she had been talking with him and having feelings for him while she was with me.I don't like the feeling of these unanswered questions and the fact that she's deciding between us. She can't love me if this is the situation? I have lost my trust and confidence in her and recovering a potential relationship. Our problems were stupid, but the situation makes me think she isn't for me.I don't know what to do in my situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Trust your instincts, don't hang around to let her decide who she wants.
You decide - you want more with somebody you trust so end it and find her
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): A relationship should work naturally in it's early years and beyond the odd small issue, you shouldn't have to 'make' it work. I would say trust your instincts.
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