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writes:Hi been with husband 23 years and he has ed and doese not want to play in bed or try because he say he get upset ecause it wont stay hard and it makes it hard for hin to breather/and yes he is going to a heart doctor to find out if he needs surgey,but i cannot unstand why he keeps turing away from me,and yes i an pretty mabe a little lose skin here and there since weight lost weight we are in our late 60 thanks help out if u can! Jane Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2013): I am gonna get a lot of slack for this, but I disagree with the other Aunts,
. I understood u saying about surgery was just some background as we age maybe younger folk cant understand but life goes on and he can play a little with you and not get himself in a huff...yes be mindful of his health but in a marriage sex is very important and basically nullified if there is none...now it doesnt have to be full on but intamcy is extremelly important. Express to him how lonely u are feeling and that you need a little play so that u can give him what he needs too, give and take. Good luck and i hope his health improves and you get some play.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2013):
 He has a heart condition and can't breathe when he gets aroused. He may need heart surgery.
OMG you want him to satisfy YOU in bed while he's worried he may DIE doing it?
Do you really think that the only thing after 23 years a marriage is about is sex?
He's not healthy right now for god's sake...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2013): He is having trouble breathing and needs to see a heart doctor to figure out what is wrong an YOU are concerned about getting yourself off? What if he 'plays' with you and DIES because he exerted himself?! How will you feel then?!If he won't 'play' in bed because he has a medical condition, you need to respect him for that. Have you ever had problems breathing while trying to 'play' in bed? I have. Nothing ruins sexy time quite like feeling like you might die if you keep going.If everything else in your relationship is good, you need to focus on HIS HEALTH instead of your pleasure. Make sure he sees a doctor and has his tests run sooner rather than later. His doctor may be able to help him enough so that you two can 'play' again without him feeling like he could die from the exertion.Until he is well enough to 'play' with you, you can always 'play' with yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2013): I would try and put sex or play on the back burner for now and get him off to a doctor for a physical check up PDQ. If hes not feeling good in himself, sex is probably the last thing on his mind. Its not because of you, so try not to take his lack of interest personally. Get him to see a doctor for a check up and find out whats ailing him. That should be your priority for now x
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