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writes:my ex have a woman while he was with me. i asked him about he said nothing. i ask him about our relationship he said nothing. i found out and keeping to my self, he have made attempt to pull me in back after the two days i found out. i didn't budge. i asked his mother she confirmed everything to me. something happen during the time and i raise my voice, his mother was not used to those kind of talking. Now he wants me to apologize to his mother, i ask him what for? He said so that if later down in the future if i have to call her and talk to her she may be skeptical to talk to me. the fact remain i don't have anything to do with him and his family anymore so why should i apologize? he is very adamant about me apologizing to his mother, saying if i want to build up back a relationship with her i should do it, and its not for him i'm doing it for, for my own sake. thing is what do i have to benefit from this? he keep saying i harden and all that cause he tell me what to do. the point is the situation done happen a month ago and i don't communicate to him at all so i don't understand this at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2013):
 If there are no children with this ex and he does not owe you large sums of money and you have no legal ties to him
I'd go no contact with him and his family
you owe an EX nothing.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 April 2013):
 Why would there be a need to repair a relationship that is over? Is she a grandmother to your children?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (4 April 2013):
 Why are you still in contact with an ex who cheated on you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2013): As long as you dont have any children with this man and you have moved on from him, just stop all contact. He can not tell you what to do. His only concerned at this point should be his failure to be a faithful partner. If he had any morals the situation would never have occurred. Explain that HE is the one who needs to apologize to her for putting her in that situation, then ignore him and dont respond to him anymore. He is attention seeking, dont play along.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 April 2013):
 There is very little information to go on here. Do you have children with your ex? If you do, and I'm guessing so since there are few other reasons to keep in touch with him or his family, then having a good relationship with them is a wise idea for you and your children.
However, without knowing what she said to you that prompted you to raise your voice and what exactly you said to her in this raised voice it is difficult to determine if an apology is called for.
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