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writes:My husband and I have different schedules. I go to bed, he is downstairs on his computer. I wake up, he is asleep until 10am (he works from home). Then he takes a nap during the day so he can stay up at night. Do I have the right to ask him to change his schedule so we are in bed at 11-12? He says that even if he is in bed, he cannot fall asleep. He says he is a night person, and he's always been like this. BUT when he was dating me, he would go to bed with me at the same time. What hurts my feelings is that when he wanted to he did things differently, now that we are married it seems he settled into a comfortable life that makes me uncomfortable. Also, when he does come to bed, he either reads or watching movies on his computer, headphones on, because he says his mind is still working and he cannot switch it off to be romantic with me. Not much of a quality time for me... Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (19 October 2007):
Too much of a multitasking fool. Take away his connections and clothes and you might have a basis for romance.
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 answer seems to me the good habits have been lost i live with one just like that never sex affection never to busy for other things but never time for me yes it hurts i would talk to him about it shape up or ship out that's the decided i made why should you care he does not seems to care well it your choice maybe he to settle in that he forget he suppose to make a women happy and sex is part of loving someone maybe you should go out and let him wonder what going on but you can live your life like that all the time you just part of the furniture best of luck lets hope he wakes up
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Dear Anon
i am afraid that is how it is with some men, before they get married they are all over you like a rash, then when they marry they just treat there wife badly, not being romantic with you is a sin to your woman hood, your going to have to straighten him out,you will have to sit him down and make him listen to you, tell him their is a problem and he is the cause,if he is sleeping in the afternoon that is why he cant sleep at night,i cant see what watching films has anything to do with his work,if he was more romantic with you then he would be able go to sleep,if he does not change his ways then i am sorry to say that your marriage is in real trouble, because if you cant communicate with each other or he wont listen to you, whats the point.
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