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writes:My best friend and i ended up kissing a few months ago...It was his b'day and he'd been teasing me for just one kiss so we went ahead and snogged away to glory.May i add that this kiss was totally amazing? The moment his lips touched mine...i felt like i was drinking nectar...Anyhow i had just broken up with my boy friend and even he wasn't really interested in getting into a relationship so we didn't talk about getting into a relationship.However...a few weeks later we met up again and 'almost' ended up doing it...the sexual energy between us is way too intense and it took everything in my power to push him away.After which i returned to my city...we stay quite far from each other...shortly after the last encounter we kept in touch...but it was as if he never had time for me...He would call...but speak for just 5-10 minutes as he said he can't talk for long as he runs out of things to say. Is that normal? And then...even when i'd call him on skype he always had to rush off...for some party with his friends or to study...I get it that people can be busy...but on one hand he said he loved me...and on the other hand, he would not give me time...If you can't give someone time...how can you get to know each other?Plus...he still talks to his ex gfs on a frequent basis...as in two - three times a month. And whenever we would talk; he'd keep on talking about them...it used to hurt...i dunno if he did this to make me jealous...but it hurt!!So i distanced myself from him. Recently...a week ago we met and ended up kissing again. Till he mentioned that it was his last ex's b'day and he'd forgotten to wish her. Maybe i am being too jealous...but who talks about an ex at a time like this.HE keeps on saying he loves me...but he does nothing to prove it...i think he's just messing around with me...so i stopped talking to him. Have i made a mistake? For i feel that he does care...but he's not serious...and i know he misses me..but i also know he cannot make me happy...i always feel dissatisfied...:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm i am not interested in him because he has an interesting life...we are quite different in that aspect...he likes boozing and getting drunk when he goes out with his friends. I don't drink a lot...maybe just socially and i never do get drunk...you can say i'm not a party animal like him and i don't want to be.But that isn't the issue. The issue is that i feel he doesn't take me seriously and i am just wasting my time on him...which is why i distanced myself from him.The thing is, no one likes being treated like a door-mat. He gets intensely jealous if i ever speak about my ex...so why is it a prob. if i get jealous? And shouldn't you practice what you preach?And if you love someone; i don't think you'd want to spend too much time with your ex gfs....which is why; even though it hurts, i know i don't hold much importance in his life.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 The kiss was amazing only because it was a rare moment. You don't know if that could ever happen again, so every time you see him you will make the best out of it. It is like a life time's pleasure condensed into a simple moment.
Words are cheap. No one should ever say I love you unless you both go official. He sounds like he's still hurting from the last relationship and an occasional kiss is all he could handle. Him messing with you is proof that he is still wanted in the dating world, to give him some confidence to start hunting again. He is inconsiderate, only thinks of himself. I bet he wouldn't mind sex too. He has no time because he doesn't want a relationship, and not the other way round.
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