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writes:I had friendship with same gender best friend that turned into more, we had a 2 month physical affair. She has ended the affair and is staying with her husband and teenager but we work together. How do I get over her and handle seeing her everyday at work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2018): I had this same thing happen. I caught feelings for her and she ended up deciding she wanted to be with her fiance. Working together was the worst for me. Thankfully she ended up taking a new job a few months later.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2018):
 You know what these things happen at work, we get close to the people we work with and sometimes feelings get involved. Honestly the best thing to do is to try and move forward now. She saw the error in her ways and decided it was not worth loosing her family over. This should be a lesson never to get involved with someone who is married. The best thing you can do now is ignore her at work and give it time. It will get easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2018): Concentrate on your job. Maybe try and get a transfer. Time heals and feelings fade. You'll get used to seeing her. If she can pretend you don't exist. Why not follow her lead?
Try not to be a drama-queen. She was never yours to have. So get-over it. See it as just a passing-experience, that never should have happened. You still need your job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2018): I was in your shoes not too many years ago, except that I ended it and he got fired. Anyway, there really isn't much you can do. You can either quit your job or you can move onto another woman just not in your job. It's hard to move on but just find someone else. There really is no other way. She will not leave him for you which you should have bared in mind from the beginning if you were going to start this. When you are the other person you need to really fight your emotions and not let them get in the way. It is just an adventure for both of you. Nothing more. And even if she did leave you for him nothing good can turn out. So just take it as that, a fun relationship you lived.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2018): This is why you NEVER date or have sex with colleagues you work with everyday. Never! At least wait til you leave or they do.
Very difficult to work with them when things go bad.
Learn from this and don’t do it again.
All you can do is be polite and do your work.
If this isn’t possible you or them may need to leave.
You have much to learn about being professional with work colleagues.
I hope you can deal with this, if you can’t leave.
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